Happy New Year, Everyone! With the first week down and in the spirit of having an exceptional 2018, I wanted to share three things that I think you should start doing for your love life--starting right now. It's the commitment to doing simple things daily that will really make all the difference. If you commit to the following, you can begin to transform your love life in just a few short months.
1. Pay attention: There are so many distractions these days, and it is easy to lose sight of what is important. If you want to learn your lessons in love and life, you have to understand what is really going on. When you are single, you have to notice if you keep attracting the same type of people. If you are in a relationship, you have to realize if you are getting stuck in the same unsatisfying dynamic. You also have to, like, pay attention to your partner--what he or she is and isn't saying. Are there patterns that aren't serving you? If you aren't getting the deeper meaning of it all, what in the **** are you actually doing? Remember the lesson repeats until you learn it. Its your love life. Take control of it this year!
2. Stop responding to every work-related (and/or unimportant) text message as soon as you get it. Cause really: It can wait. Love (and lots of other great things) blossom by being present in the moment. No one likes to sit across from you at the dinner table and be ignored. Don't be that person. Also, if you are doing this all the time when you are alone, then you are distracted and not living as the best version of you. (Reread #1). If you are a slave to your phone, your position in life is reactive instead of proactive. No bueno.
3. Put your own oxygen mask on first. In other words: Self-care. It was a buzz word in 2017. And as I shared, its about a lot more than just working out and getting pedicures. You have nothing left to give if your cup is empty, because you can't give what you don't have. So look at what you need in your life and give it to yourself-- before you try to give anything to anyone else. I mean...don't be a selfish jerk. If you can help someone by opening a door, donating a couple dollars, making a referral, do it. Hey, if you are in the giving spirit, you can even try to help me give my most challenging matchmaking client what he is asking for---and make (more than!) a couple dollars yourself, while you are it! But mostly, focus on making yourself happy so that you will be good for you--and the rest will follow in your love life.
Let's get started, shall we?