Day 7 of the New Year, and you've got this "new year, new me" stuff down pat, right?
Yeah, I didn't think so.
"Out with the old, in with the new" is easier said than done.
And the decrease of members on the treadmill at my gym from January 2nd to January 6th proves it....
When it comes to your love life, cutting out the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors you engage in that relate to dating and relationships is no simple task, but it is an important one. If you don't have a handle on only engaging in what is right for you, destructive dating patterns will take over. If you don't stop them, they can have a profound and negative effect on your ability to find and keep a fulfilling relationship.
Your intentions are good. I know. In fact, there's probably a lot you'd like to let go of in 2016.
Here are four common trends that I see among men and women who struggle with relationships. (Raise your hand if you are guilty.) They are all things that should be stopped as soon as possible--if true love really is the goal.
Making the decision to date or stay in a relationship with someone who is "wrong" for you
Character and personality traits are difficult to change. If someone makes you miserable more often not, they are wrong for you.
Choosing a partner who is just like your ex
If you truly want to date someone who is very similar to your ex, you are either a masochist or not over your ex. If it didn't work with the first one; why would it work with the second? If you are ready to leave the past in the past, read my book, How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style. Change up your attraction template and learn to love someone new and different.
Refusing to go deeper:
Whether you only go on dates with men who are 6ft tall or women who are blonde with blue eyes or stay on the surface in conversation with your partner, your love life will be stagnant if you don't go deep. So go all in, and get real.
Thinking happily-ever-after comes easily, and if it does not come easily, it is not happily-ever-after:
The truth is that most people have to work to achieve happiness.They have to search for a match and go through ups and downs together before they achieve relational bliss. Don't let Hollywood fool you: Love isn't always a fairy tale.
So there you have it.......
What dating and relationship habits do you want to ditch in 2016?
To make 2016 the year to transform your love life, email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com