When schools and businesses close, public transportation systems shut down, and we get snowed in with all of our newly stocked groceries, we start thinking about our love lives.
If we are single, we wish we had someone to watch a movie and share a bottle of wine with. If we are brokenhearted, we wish that person was our ex. (Oh. Please. Make it stop.)
If we are in an unhappy relationship, we worry about the (very real) possibility of World War III, being propositioned for marathon sex, or worse, having to deal with the idea of marathon sex never even crossing our partner’s mind.
Gosh, weren’t snow storms soooo much more fun in college?
Whether you are actually snowed in on The East Coast, sunning yourself in California, or are reading this from anywhere else in the world, there is a secret waiting to be revealed in this blizzard of 2015.
It’s your secret. Not “The Secret”. But something about you, your psychology, your lifestyle, and/or your approach to relationships that you don’t know. It is your blind spot, and it is sabotaging your success in relationships. Now, I know that some of you might think you know your secret.
You give me lots of excuses for why you aren’t happy in your love life:
“I have to focus on my career right now.”
“I only attract crazy women.”
(No, really. My ex was crazy. Like in a straight-jacket-crazy.)
“These men just don’t want to commit.”
"I stayed in the wrong relationship for too long.”
“Online dating isn’t for me."
"I just haven't met the right person."
Sound familiar? Well, guess what? You don’t know what you don’t know. But if you give me a month to coach you, you can bet your bottom dollar I will figure out your secret!
Trust me, I’ll know. Just like I know….....
-That too many great loves pass too many people by because they spent too many hours at the office making too much money for too many people who didn’t give a shit about their happiness
- That like attracts like and that every person you attract is your mirror
- That some men will never commit to some women and that all women need to figure out which men they should date and which are a waste of their time
- That people often fail to learn the important lessons from past relationships and often end up in the wrong relationship(s) again
- That most singles who think online dating isn’t for them just don’t want a relationship badly enough
- That sometimes some people have met the right person—but didn’t know it until it was too late.
If you can relate to anything mentioned in this post and/or are curious as to what it is that is really stopping you from getting the results you want in your love life, I invite you to take advantage of my Blizzard Blowout Sale.
In honor of this first Blizzard of 2015 and all who are snowed in, I am offering a fifteen percent discount on all my coaching programs for singles, couples, and half-couples.
Detailed information about my current a la carte services that can be put into a personalized package for you here http://www.rachelrusso.com/coaching.html
This is a one day only sale that ends at midnight on Tuesday, January 27th. Just email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com, subject “Blizzard Blowout Sale” to qualify for the discount and confirm your first session. I look forward to revealing your secret!
Stay Warm, my Luvahs!
Do you fall into the "broken-hearted" category? Come learn all of *my* secrets for getting over your ex--Italian American Style. Join me for my Feb 5th Book Signing Event for How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style at The Italian American Museum in New York’s “Little Italy” from 6:30-7:30PM. More information on this free event here.
Happy Hump Day, Luvahs! Tonight is the perfect night for me to be bringing sexy back on LIVE radio.
That's right: I'm making my debut on The Sexy Party Show TONIGHT, 9pm Eastern, just after last night's debut of the year's first supermoon. (There will be six in 2015. Pay attention to this stuff. It is fascinating!)
No, I probably won't be talking astrology on the show--but it isn't out of the question if the hosts start asking me about how I determine compatibility in my matchmaking. (Hey, the sun signs do get factored in on occasion!)
If you want a preview of what my dating and relationship real talk will be like on this show, you can check out a recent clip from my appearance on Mr. Locario TV.com.
Of course, I am game for whatever sexy or unsexy topics come up, and I'll be mentioning the latest happenings with my book, How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style.
These include today's discovery of my book as one of the alumni-published-books in Iona College Magazine and more deets on my Feb 5th takeover of NYC's Little Italy! Oh, and I am also bringing a sexy surprise to the studio!
Want to join us?
Please visit GoProRadio.com and find The Sexy Party Show to watch live or call in at 347.308.8977!
Long-lasting relationships have a foundation of truth and trust. People often say that honesty is the best policy, and I agree with that--not just because it's easy to forget the lies.
Sometimes, though, it is really tough to tell the truth. It often seems easier to tell a half-truth. Or to think that you don't owe anyone a real explanation.
I get it: Honesty can make us feel more uncomfortable than a pair of stilettos after a night of dancing on chairs at Bagatelle and booths at Le Souk. (Not that I ever did that...Wink. Wink.)
Have you ever gotten really anxious over having to tell someone close to you something that would be taken negatively? Even though the scenario you built up in your head was probably worse than the reality of telling that person the truth, I am willing to bet it was still pretty uncomfortable.
Despite these temporary feelings of discomfort that will occur when we get real with people in our lives, it is best to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Even when it hurts. Especially when it hurts, perhaps.
Are you wondering why its best to have integrity and not just do whatever the (bleep) you'd like in this life?
Well, when you lie to people, you suffer. And the people you lie to suffer too. When you lie to yourself, it's even worse.
Hey, you over there. Don't think keeping the truth to yourself isn't a lie. Lies by omission can be just as destructive to relationships. ( I see you!)
When you ignore the problems in your relationship, bad things happen--like affairs. If you would just tell the damn truth, maybe you wouldn't be that guy writing in to my He Said/She Said column at this messy link here.
Look, I don't make this stuff up! I'm just the messenger here. This tale is as old as time. Back to The Bible, in fact.
"The one who lives with integrity lives securely, but whoever perverts his ways will be found out."
- Proverbs 10:9 Holman CSB
Hmmmm....isn't security what long-lasting relationships are about?
If you want to secure a long-lasting relationship but have been unsuccessful, is it possible that you aren't living in integrity?
What does living in integrity look like for you? How would your life be different if you started being who you are on the inside on the outside 24/7? Most importantly, what are you waiting for? Tell me in the comments below.
So, in case you haven’t realized: I didn’t always have the whole getting-over-an-ex-thing all figured out.
In fact, as I confessed in my second book, How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style, I was once a self-proclaimed, sad-tissue-hogging-chocolate-eating-venting-to-my-friends-daily-closure-seeking-kind-of-girl. After many sleepless nights, trips to the self-help section of Barnes & Noble, and dates with men whose names I could never remember, I was over my ex. Of course, there was a whole lot that happened in between the breakup and mending of my broken heart! There were things that facilitated my healing and strategies that I learned-many from my Italian American culture-that helped me move forward during the difficult times. Not only was I using all the insight I gained to help myself, but I was using it to help others. Hence, my Italian- American inspired book was born.
In other words, I did not actually pop out of the womb with a profound understanding of how to recover from heartbreak or prevent heartbreak in the first place by avoiding relationships with stunad exes!
But guess what? Now I know all the secrets, and I am about to spill them for anyone who’d like to hear them, up close and personal! That’s right on Thursday, February 5th, I am having an awesome event at The Italian American Museum in New York’s “Little Italy” from 6:30-7:30PM.
I’ll be continuing the conversation on how to get over your ex Italian American Style as well as find love Italian American Style too! Yes, continuing. If you haven’t noticed, I’ve been talking about this topic a lot-on radio, podcasts, TV, and in print. My latest interview was on The Mr. Locario Show. It was short, but sweet and very fun to do. See for yourself here.
Anyway, back to the event. This press release with all the deets went out this week. I would really love it if you check it out, share it with your friends, and, of course, attend the event on the 5th. Look, I know it’s cold in NYC right now. But you know what’s even colder? The side of the bed with no one there.
For anyone who wants to know how to get over heartbreak and find lasting love in 2015, this event is a MUST attend! In the meantime, stay warm, my friends…..
It’s a new year, and ya’ll know what that means: Out with the old, and in with the new!If you are currently doing any of the following five things, stop right now. Because these are soooo 2014:
Thinking about getting back with your ex: As a wise man once said “Love is leaving the past where it belongs—behind.” Your ex is an ex for a reason. Move forward, not backward. ‘Nuff said.
Thinking 2015 is just another year in which you will end up alone: If you think you’ll be alone, you’ll be alone. A negative mindset will never serve you well. Think positive. If you want love and believe you are worthy of love, you can find love.
Rejecting anyone who doesn’t meet all the match criteria on your list: Finding your match isn’t like grocery shopping to create the perfect meal. You aren’t going to find someone with everything on your list. You may think you know exactly what you need, but then you’ll meet someone you have chemistry with. Someone that only fits half of your criteria. Chemistry may trump it all. Be open-minded.
Being a shitty dater: Although the “rules” of dating are not all black and white, there are some things that most singles know one should and shouldn’t do. For instance, if a man asks a woman out on a first date five days in advance and does not talk to her for the next four days, he needs to contact her to confirm the date. No confirmation = No date. If you don’t think she’ll make other plans, talk to my friend who just got stood up—after an hour of stress, in traffic at a standstill.
Feeling sorry for yourself: You’re single. Not dying of a terminal illness. It’s not that serious. We are born alone and die alone. We can have a lot of fun in between—whether single or in a relationship. When you are tempted to throw yourself a pity party, keep in mind that having an “other half” does not guarantee you happiness. So celebrate your life as a single—it’s the only one you’ve got!
What else would you like to see on The Singles Black List For 2015? Tell me in a quick comment below, or, ya know, just wish me a happy new year!