My grandmother turned eighty-nine yesterday. As my cousin said, she is "eighty-nine and looking fine"!
On the way to her surprise birthday dinner, she asked my aunt where all the time went. As the saying goes, time does seem to fly by.
Unless, of course, you are wasting it. Because when you are wasting it in, say, the wrong job, the wrong relationship, or the wrong mindset, it really is a long life.
A lot of people wonder if they are wasting their time or not when it comes to dating and relationships.
The million dollar questions:
Should you stick it out or throw in the towel? Does slow and steady win the race, or are you going to find yourself alone and back on a dating app next year?
Is patience a virtue? Or do you need to give that man an ultimatum?!
Does love really come along when you least expect it, or do you have to be proactive to find it?
A few suggestions:
If you’re wondering whether or not you are wasting your time with someone you are dating, it is quite possible that you may be.
You need to pay attention to your partner's words-and even more importantly, their actions- to find out. Sometimes you need a trusted friend or coach to help you see the truth, because you are not always going to be objective when it comes to your own love life.
If you are single and want to be in a relationship, but are not doing anything to get yourself on dates or make yourself more dateable, you are, in fact, wasting your time. Yup, I am sure about that one....
Unfortunately, I see a lot of great relationship-oriented people falling into one of these categories. They deeply desire to be in lasting love, but they are always sabotaging their chances of it. To put it simply, they are either wasting too much time with Mr./Ms. Wrong or failing to make the effort that is often necessary to find a great relationship.
This is something that really upsets me when I see it happening to clients, friends, and other people that I care about. I can see it so clearly, why can't they? Its like they are blind to reality. It can happen to the best of us; we are in own way.
Look, time is of the essence. Lately, I've been using mine to figure out a way to better serve the people I know who would like to stop wasting theirs and be happy in love already, darn it!
I've developed an exciting new coaching program, and over the next few weeks I want to talk to everyone I know -whether single or in an unsatisfying relationship-who is sick and tired of wasting time in their love life.
If you've made it this far and couldn't help but admit that you are wasting your time and want to do something about it, I'd love to talk to you! If you read this and thought it sounded like something your best friend, sister, brother, mother, father, relative, or colleague needs to hear, don't hesitate to pass this on.
Sometimes, all it takes is for one conversation to give you the momentum that can change your life forever.
If you are interested to learn more about how I can help you stop wasting your time and create the love you deserve, schedule a complimentary Matchmaking/Dating +Relationship Consultation in my online scheduler at RachelRusso.com today.
Come on now: It's GO TIME!
Hope you had a happy first day of summer & National Selfie Day!
Summer is a time for love--whether you are coupled up or just loving your "self".
Of course, we aren't formally taught how to love ourselves. A lot of people think self-love is as icky as this whole selfie craze that I just posted about on The Gram. But self- love isn't self-absorbed. Quite the contrary, self- love helps us be more present and loving to those in our life.
If we aren't lucky enough to be "loved up" at any given time, we can always love ourselves. In fact, we should have a lifelong love affair with our self --no matter what our status. Just because we deserve it!
Here are five fun ways to love this summer and long after:
1. Don't settle for less than what you want in your love life---whether it is dating someone who isn't a true fit for you or accepting treatment from a partner that is a lot less than ideal.
2. Communicate what you want to others--instead of hoping people will read your mind. Watch your chances of actually getting it increase exponentially!
3. Make choices that support your goals and true desires. Don't waste your time doing things that are not in line with the vision that you have for your life and/or relationship.
4. Give up judgment. Of yourself or of your partner. Just accept things as they are if you can. No one and no circumstance will always be perfect.
5. Ask for help when you need it. Didn't I just say that you don't have to be Super(Wo)Man?
Cheers to Love & Life!
Since we are talking money, let me first say that I am not getting paid to send out this message.
And there is a slight catch involved....
I like to tell it straight. No chaser.
There IS a monetary investment on your part, but, it is one that you will definitely very soon get back if you decide to move forward.
REAL TALK: f you have been following me for a while you may know that reality TV producers have been chasing me for the better part of the past decade about all kinds of matchmaking and dating coaching show concepts.
Aside from participating in some pilots and doing (many) recorded Skype interviews with producers, the only TV I have done is news show media interviews and several appearances being a panelist and guest on Brooklyn Savvy, a long-running public access talk show.
This is largely because I haven't been willing to sell out to make it to the big screen for a reality TV show of my own. Yet, I always said that if it doesn't compromise my values, I'd do it!
If life gives you a chance take it, if it changes your life let it.....
Well if you have ever wanted the chance to work with me-or to be set up by a matchmaker AND be on reality TV- keep reading.
Yes, I'm in talks of doing a show with a major network; they want me to take on a new client (male or female in the NYC tri-state area) to appear in a docu-series with me. There's a fee to become my client, but there is also compensation from the network. So, basically, the money will balance out.
If you can make the investment, want love & have the desire to be on TV, this might be perfect for you! Please get in touch at Rachel@RachelRusso.com asap. If I think you'd be a fit, I am happy to get you enrolled as a client and introduce you to the casting producer who can answer any questions about the show that you may have.
So don't be shy!
Oh, and if you want to become my client-sans the TV appearance-you can get in touch too.
As always, feel free to pass this on to friends, family, colleagues, and randos who have that I'm-the-next-big-reality-TV-star-glow. Good luck to all!
I'm looking for a special young woman who is looking for someone special.
She is truly OPEN to finding love, and she is not closed off to how she will find it.
She has her preferences and must-haves but does not cling to a rigid idea of who her future husband is-- how he looks, where he lives, what he does for work, how old he is, or what he must say, do, and be on the first date and in ever interaction after.
She might have some deal-breakers, but she's OPEN for the right guy--to dating someone who is an inch shorter than she prefers, is potentially outside her race, or is a tad bit older than her last boyfriend.
She lives in the NYC tri-state area or wouldn't mind relocating there for the love of her life.
She is beautiful-inside and out-in shape, smart, and has a warm and pleasant personality.
She is willing to open her mind, open her heart, and take a chance on finding love, and would therefore be open to potentially meeting an eligible bachelor.
This bachelor is a forty-six year old client of mine who is living in Northern, NJ. He is a well-educated professional who has never been married and is looking for his future wife. Born in NYC & raised (in part) in NJ, he is of Indian descent. He is spiritual, strong, masculine, and super-kind-hearted person looking for his other half for happily-ever-after.
There's a second bachelor too. This one is forty years old. A successful entrepreneur who is well-educated. A world traveller who calls NYC home. He's of Chinese descent. Has one young child and would love to marry and have a few more babies.
Do you know who is future wife is? Maybe you are his future wife?
If you'd like to be considered-at no cost to you-or refer one of your friends or family members-and be compensated generously- please shoot me an email at Rachel@RachelRusso.com with photos and info. Feel free to pass this blog post on to your friends.
Take a chance for love, today.