May you be blessed with a beautiful and joy-filled Thanksgiving holiday, surrounded by good food, laughter, friends, and family.
This Thanksgiving, I am thankful for YOU! I thank you all for your love, support, and loyal readership. I encourage you to cherish those special moments with those who mean the most to you--even when they get on your nerves. I.e. If your mom, like my mom, says you "can't peel potatoes to save your life," well, you show her! Thanksgiving is a great time to pat yourself on the back for all your strengths and accomplishments in love and life. Now is the time to remind yourself that life is good, and you can do whatever you put your mind to. You got this!
I also wholeheartedly suggest that you warmly embrace the new people who may show up at your table. Ya know, your brother's new girlfriend who doesn't lift a damn finger in the kitchen! Everyone has a cross to bear, so don't judge them until you've walked in their shoes.
In the meantime, practice gratitude. You CAN be grateful for something this holiday season--no matter what your relationship status. There are benefits to being single, benefits to being in a relationship, and even benefits for the brokenhearted. Remember: The grass isn't always greener somewhere else. It is greener where you water it!
So this Thanksgiving, focus on the positive, find your silver lining, water your grass, and just enjoy living the life you were meant to. Oh, and go easy on the potatoes!
When it comes to dating for the purposes of finding a life partner or spouse, there is a lot to consider. Will this person want the same things as I want? Laugh at my bad jokes? Sit by my hospital bed around the clock if I'm suffering from some terrible disease? One thing I really stress to all my single clients is that they should seek someone who shares their same vision for the future. Do they want to be a power couple who travels the world? Or do they dream of settling in the 'burbs and being the best PTA parents to ever grace their child's school?
If a couple isn't on the same page when they get married, there may not be many more pages to their story. Perhaps one way to increase the chances of finding someone who has a similar vision for what they want out of life or how to raise children is to find someone who shares your race, ethnicity, or religion. While I personally know several interracial and interfaith couples who are going strong, I know plenty more who struggle with cultural clashes between their families of origin and kids who are so confused by two religions that they choose no religion at all.
While I'm not here to say one is better than the other-and am totally aware that we can't help who we fall in love with-I don't think it's a bad idea to at least try to date within our own race/ethnicity/religion or one that is similar. In regard to long term compatibility, I've seen more evidence for "birds of a feather flocking together" than opposites attracting. Consequently, I have no problem sharing my Italian American pride-the kind that inspires photo shoots/interviews + books- with anyone and everyone. And I certainly wouldn't mind if this attracted a man with some Italian American swag either!
No, I don't think there is anything wrong with Italians seeking Italians, Jews seeking Jews, or both groups getting together to make, ummm, pizza bagels. (Considering how similar these cultures can be, when it comes to successful intermingling, the chances are looking good!) So, in a sense, I'm saying that being politically correct is overrated when it comes to your love life. It can help with your career, but when it comes to dating, get real about what you want. You aren't ethnocentric, racist, or arrogant if you want to date someone who is more similar to you and your family. If, you, too, agree that it's totally okay to not interracially date and would like to connect with your own peeps, consider the following:
For NYC singles who’d like to meet others that share their religion/culture, there are a few upcoming parties worth checking out.......
The Almost-Thanksgiving Holiday Party:
The Holiday Party:
For singles who don’t want to meet other singles but just want to get over their (stunad) ex Italian American Style, join me this Saturday, Nov 22nd, at Barnes & Nobles in Freehold, NJ, from 12-1PM for book signing of How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style.
Can't make it out to Jersey? Save The Date: February 5th for my NYC Book Signing Party at The Italian American Museum, followed by A Jewish & Italian Mixer at Goldbar, hosted by David Shapiro and I!
Everyone knows that couple. A glimpse at their typical dinner conversation resembles that of two monks at a silent retreat.
While the optimists among us would say they are comfortable with silence, the pessimists would say they don't have a damn thing to talk about. A realist would conclude such a couple would have a hella lot more discussion at night if they filled their day with the work, hobbies, and causes they are passionate about! There, I said it: Find your passion; improve your love life!
Whether you are currently single or have been married for years, finding or rediscovering your passion can have a greater impact on your (potential) relationship than you'd ever imagine. You are a hundred times more interesting of a person when you have strong interests outside your relationship. When you see the world through a different perspective than your partner, you have something valuable to bring to the table. And when you become your dream, your sex appeal increases exponentially. How do I know this? Well, I'm living proof. My passion has always been writing. When I'm in my "flow" I pick up everything from guys on the bus and subway who see me penning my next book to dates and spouses for my ghostwriting clients on Match.com. (By the way, those subway guys better watch out, or they might end up in my novel.)
Ever since, I published How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style, it is like my magnetic field expanded in so many ways. Not only am I getting tons of media opportunities to spread my message about the power of Italian American culture in mending a broken heart, like I did in this interview with Dating Coach, Polina Solda , but I am even being interviewed about my passion for writing. (If you are curious about my thoughts on the craft or want advice on getting started in self publishing check out this print interview. )
With all this media attention comes a boost in self-esteem and you guessed it, more lovin in the romance department! I must say: It is nice to get all this male attention simply for being me and doing something I love.
Now, you'll have to excuse me, all this flow just made me pass up my bus stop.........
Autographed copies of How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style are now available at The BookMark Shoppe with free shipping until the end of 2014. Call 718 833 5115 to order.
You have no business being single.
You are gainfully employed or making it on your own and even paying your taxes to Uncle Sam. You have interests outside of your career. You have a great, supportive group of friends, and you don’t hate your entire family. You have a roof over your head, gluten-free bread on your table, and love in your heart.
You truly want to be in a relationship. You’d even venture to say that life is better when shared-- especially around the holidays.
Unfortunately, it looks like another year has passed without having a plus-one on Turkey Day. Maybe there’s still hope for someone to kiss on New Year’s Eve?
I hate to burst your bubble, but chances are you won’t magically be in a magical relationship before year’s end-or maybe even the end of next year- unless you make it happen by taking action now.
There are a lot of things we think we need in this life, and I realize that for many, a matchmaker and dating coach isn’t necessarily one of them. Especially when we think we know how to date or be in a relationship; all we need to do is to just meet “The One” already! But you have blind spots. There are reasons why you are single that a matchmaker and dating coach will reveal to you, and this will change everything!
Chances are that no matter who you are, you’d benefit from hiring a professional such as myself to help maximize your chances for success in this crazy world of modern day dating.
Especially if the following describe you:
1. You’re a female without a bevy of relationship-oriented options. Hello, NYC women. The numbers aren’t in your favor. You need someone to get you in front of the right men, before it is too late.
2. You’re a male distracted by an overwhelming number of options. This seems like a good problem to have, but it isn’t—especially if you keep choosing women who fit the “type” and “pattern” that isn’t working for you. You need a coach to help you prevent making the same dating mistakes again and again.
3. You don’t have the desire, energy, or skill for online dating on your own. If you don’t have time for a second job, you don’t have time for online dating. Unless, of course, you hire a coach to show you all the online dating hacks--including how to create a profile that makes you so attractive that you’ll barely be able to keep yourself from dating you!
4. The last place you want to find your next relationship is at a bar or club. I don’t blame you. A dating coach will show you how you can meet singles in the real world without ever stepping foot in the nightlife scene.
5. No men ever approach you. You are unconsciously rejecting them. A dating coach will help you find out why, and most importantly, how to stop.
6. No women ever make eye contact with you. You either lack confidence, aren’t projecting the right image, go for the wrong women, or umm, need to get your head out of your phone! A dating coach will change your entire energy and tell you if you are trying to date out of your league.
7. Your friends would introduce you to someone—if only they knew someone for you. Matchmakers get to know you like friends do. And they have lots more “friends” in their database than your friends do. They also know more about compatibility and give you the date feedback you need to know. I.e. What your friends would never tell you.
8. A typical weekend consists of three-five first dates. A dating coach will show you how to date smart—not hard. First dates must lead to seconds if you want a relationship. Note: You are doing something wrong.
9. It’s been such a long time since you’ve had a relationship, that you are actually considering answering that booty-call text from your ex. No, no, no! Just no. You really need me, and my book too.
10. All the money you’ve earned from all you’ve accomplishments means nothing because you have no one special to share it with. Sad, but true. A matchmaker will help you find the right person to spend your life with. Everything will look brighter when you are in love!
When you’re ready to transform your love life: Check out my Coaching Services and get in touch at Rachel@RachelRusso.com for discounted packages from now until the end of 2014.
ITS NOW OR NEVER, LUVAH!
Watch me live on Mee Mee TV! Tuesday, Nov. 4th, at 2:15PM EST, I'll be giving up my Italian-American inspired advice for upgrading--from your ex!
To watch my interview on this show-at no cost to you-go to Meemee.tv. Just find the search box and type in "Global Dating Advice Channel" to watch me live.
Ask me your burning questions and get answers in real time. I'll be sharing lots of insight from my second book, How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style. Autographed copies are now available at The BookMark Shoppe with free shipping until the end of 2014. Call 718 833 5115 to order.