It's that moment you weren't expecting.
You are in bed, getting ready to fall asleep with your new boyfriend or girlfriend for the first time. There was a little tossing and turning. Maybe some rustling of the covers. You are thinking about the events of the day. Hearing the clock tick. Feeling overtired.
And then it happens. You realize you are in a living nightmare....because there is no way you are going to get any sleep with your partner!
Whether your partner hogs all the covers, is the loudest snorer ever, talks in his/her sleep, or is totally restless, it can be very upsetting to lose even a night's worth of your precious sleep. You really care about this person, but you worry about the future of your relationship. What will you do if you can't learn to be compatible in your sleep?
At some point you are going to have to come up with a strategy. As someone who has been in this situation before and has heard horror stories from others, I believe it is better to get this straightened out sooner rather than later. Speaking of which, my father, after thirty-six years of marriage, still complains that my mother kicks and scratches him in her sleep to stop his snoring!
Umm, yeah. There are definitely more effective alternatives.
I admit that I am a a bit weirdly obsessed with getting a good night's sleep! In fact, I once read The Sleep Revolution by Ariana Huffington and started implementing everything to prevent jet lag on a trip to Italy. I am no stranger to putting lavender oil on the soles of my feet, using a Fitbit to monitor REM sleep, or trying to sleep according to my circadian rhythms. I like a good pillow, a cup of Chamomile tea before bed, and I often keep a notepad on my nightstand so I can write out the anxieties that keep me up at night. Also, when I am on my phone late at night posting dating advice to my Instagram, I like my night shift on! No one is depleting my melatonin, thank you....
Okay, so I kind of sound like a high-maintenance sleeper, huh? Maybe you are reading this and thinking: That is too much work! If you just want some simple tips on how to cope with your partner's unique sleep style, check out this advice from my friends as Casper--the makers of The Pillow!
And if all else fails.......separate bedrooms!