It was Alexander Graham Bell who first said: "When one door closes, another opens."
I'm sure you know someone who truly believes in that theory, but do you believe it?
When it comes to love lives, I never fully believed it.......until it happened to me. After all, I had closed the door on my ex and even wrote a book about it, but I didn't see any doors opening for me.
Not for what seemed like a long time.
Not until I was fully ready to move on and let a new love in.
And, then, as if God and The Universe teamed up to play a trick on me, my ex came back. Again. And Again. And Again.
Even though I didn't get back together with him or really even see him, in my heart, I hadn'tfully let go.
I thought I was doing all the right things. Blocking him on social media. Refusing to go to the bars he frequents. Making attempts to "put myself out there" and meet new men.
Why wasn't a new door opening?
It seemed very unfair at the time, but, in retrospect, I figured out the reason.
You see, for a long time, no new door was opening for me, because even though I closed that old door with my ex, it was still open--just a crack. And, fyi, it sometimes wasn't even just one ex. It was several exes. Not to brag, but it seems like they all come crawling back at times!
With each ex, there was still a bit of light left. It was that glimmer of hope that maybe this time he changed, and things would be different.
But he didn't change. Because, people don't change. (Unless, they really want to change. And, for the most part, you should let the past go to voicemail when it calls, because it really has nothing new to say.)
Trust me, when you hold on to the notion that you may be able to rekindle a past relationship, you do not attract a new relationship.
But soon after you really let it go, you attract more than you ever imagined.
We are talking five-dates-with-five-new-guys-in-six-days-and-I-need-a-spreadsheet-to-keep-track-of-them-level-of- attraction!
If only you, too, realized the secret to attracting abundance was to let go of the people who no longer you serve you, you'd be as happy as I was when I realized a new door finally opened.
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