Well, hey there, Gorgeous! First off, my apologies. You haven't heard from me in a couple weeks, because I have been (at the risk of sounding cliché) crazy- busy. Don't worry, I won't let it happen again anytime soon, but I do want to explain.........
Last week, I was part of a group dinner with Helen Fisher herself. Yes, I am referring to the American anthropologist and leading authority on romantic attraction! This was all part of The International Matchmakers & Date Coach Conference of 2015 that I was involved in.
FYI: The three day conference for love experts around the world was an amazing experience. I got to teach matchmaking entrepreneurs about the ins and out of the biz, interact with the speakers, and do all the social media for the host, The Matchmaking Institute! Then, I filmed an interview for an award winning producer & director who is making a documentary on dating and technology. Another totally awesome gig! I just love talking about this stuff in front of a camera.
Lastly, I just acted as a judge for The Data of Love Pitch Night which was basically a Shark Tank for the founders of dating startups. All of my experience working with singles in a dating coaching and matchmaking capacity was truly an asset here. If you want to know the winners I helped choose, check out Cheekd and MatchmakerCafe.com--which I totally recommend if you are single and looking to embrace your techie side in your quest for love.
Speaking of quests for love, did I mention that I also just broke up with my boyfriend, got back together, and then broke up again? Mhhhm. I am back on the market, but something tells me it won't be for long! In case you are wondering.... #1. My recent breakup is for the best. #2. I'll keep it classy and refrain from commenting on the reasons why. #3. I will take my own advice, as written in my second book, How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style. #4. Clearly I don't have time to sit around and cry over this, which brings me to......................
The point of this blog: I have to practice what I preach here and do exactly what I am about to tell you to do.
PRIORITIZE, PRIORITIZE, PRIORITIZE!
If you are like me, you have a million things to do coupled with the pressures of dealing with everyone who is trying to get a piece of your attention. If you don't say NO to them, you will be saying NO to yourself and to your dream. When it comes to your love life, you definitely have a dream. Whether you want to have greater intimacy with your spouse, be engaged in a year, or just have a date you are somewhat attracted to for the next wedding you'll attend, there are things that you would like to see happen.
I am here to tell you that they will not just happen unless you make them happen. You can do this (and make it rain) by protecting your time. In other words, you don't give it away for free. You do the things that give you a return on your investment first and ideally ditch those that don't. If this is sounding business-ey, you get it. If you need to flesh this out a bit more, ask yourself the following questions. You wouldn't waste your time trying to set up a sales meeting with a bad lead, would you? So why should you go on a date with someone you know isn't marriage material when your goal is to tie the knot next year? You wouldn't waste your time doing online marketing activities that bring zero traffic to your website, would you? So why keep doing the same old dinner and Netflix with your spouse when you know getting out of your comfort zone (or just your living room) would spice things up in the way that you crave?
Since we are talking business, allow me to end by pointing out the obvious that doesn't seem to be so obvious to some.... You can always make more money, but you can't make more time. That time you spend going on bad dates. That time you spend in the wrong relationship. That time you spend being mad, sad, or frustrated in the right relationship. You can't get it back! So time-unlike exes-is something you should probably hold on to.
Want to take back your love life and learn to prioritize? Email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com to find out how I can help you get what you want in your love life--starting right about now!