Going to a club New Year's Eve. Watching any episode of The Kardashians. Having sexual relations in the shower. Reuniting with your ex-boyfriend. Being the "cool" girlfriend..................
Wondering what they have in common? They are all OVERRATED! In case you are wondering what else is overrated-and more specifically how it relates to you-I will cut right to the chase and share the most overrated thing of all:
Blaming other people for the unhappiness in your love life.
Sure, you might feel good for a minute to think that it isn't you that is the real problem. It is easier to point a finger at the parents too caught up in their own issues to recognize yours. It is less painful to believe that your cheating spouse is really the one who needs counseling. (Not you. You're just fine.) But playing the blame game doesn't actually solve anything at all. And why should it? Because it is no one else's fault that you are miserable alone, miserable with the person that you are with, or miserable because you are still unable to get over your ex.
It is no one else's fault that you are depressed because you didn't get the message you were hoping for on the online dating app or in the follow up text exchange after the first date you thought went well. The common denominator in everything about your love life that is making you unhappy is YOU. It is often in life that you can't immediately change your circumstances. But you can immediately choose to change your attitude.
That's right: Happiness in your love life is a choice. It's a conscious decision that you can make--no matter what your status. Instead of pointing a finger at the others around you, it is about time you look in the mirror. If you don't like what you see, what can you do about it?
PS: If this blog has resonated with you and you have a minute, TELL me! I am motivated to encourage people to transform their love lives by taking responsibility for themselves, because this is the only way I think things will change. If you have two minutes, email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com and help me understand how I can help you in your love life today!
PPS: If you really want to transform your love life, claim your free seat at The Intuitive Love Solution, and look out for my upcoming interview that is full of expert advice on rewriting your love story!