Look, we've all experienced the final straw.
Its' that one last annoyance following a series of other annoyances that make us want to throw in the towel and say:
"This is it."
No, for real this time.
"I'm done. "
"It is over."
The amount of annoyances we are able to deal with in the first place are really only a reflection of three things:
1. Our level of tolerance for unsatisfying relationship dynamics
2. Our self-esteem (When we think we won't do better/deserve this)
3. Our ability to love that person who is annoying us
When you look back at a relationship you have stayed in and analyze why you've stayed, you may find that it was often due to a combination of these three things.
Yup, I've been there too.
Do you know what your final straw is? Your deal breaker of all deal breakers? I'd love to hear about it, so feel free to shoot me an email at Rachel@RachelRusso.com.
In the meantime, allow me to share mine.
Its the "C" word.
Cheating--in any way, shape, or form.
Even when the act hasn't occurred, but I see a guy I am dating acting on a desire for the act with another woman-in even the smallest way- I am extremely turned off.
Of course, I know and accept that men are allowed to find other women besides me beautiful and even think about what it would be like to have sex with them. However, I can not be in a relationship with a guy and see him acting on that desire in any way.
If I am dating someone who shows too much interest in another female-even in the form of repetitive likes on her Instagram page- I am bouncing.
Because, if we are in a relationship, I am the only woman whose social media feed you should be stalking. (So, stalk, stalk me here.)
I can put up with a lot when I really care about someone, but I'm just not the girl to turn her head and look the other way on infidelity.
But I am the type who will find out--anything and everything. I know.
Indeed, there are things that I wouldn't want to know if I was with someone who cheated. Like I advised this-woman-with-a-cheating-husband, the details of a husband's affair are none of his wife's business.
The only thing I really need to know when considering being in a serious relationship with a guy: Is he the type who will stray?
Cause if he is........
Yeah. Cool. Byyyye.
Have you found your final straw? If so, I hope you've ended the relationship and are ready to start getting over your ex-ideally Italian American Style-today!