It’s a new year, and ya’ll know what that means: Out with the old, and in with the new!If you are currently doing any of the following five things, stop right now. Because these are soooo 2014:
Thinking about getting back with your ex: As a wise man once said “Love is leaving the past where it belongs—behind.” Your ex is an ex for a reason. Move forward, not backward. ‘Nuff said.
Thinking 2015 is just another year in which you will end up alone: If you think you’ll be alone, you’ll be alone. A negative mindset will never serve you well. Think positive. If you want love and believe you are worthy of love, you can find love.
Rejecting anyone who doesn’t meet all the match criteria on your list: Finding your match isn’t like grocery shopping to create the perfect meal. You aren’t going to find someone with everything on your list. You may think you know exactly what you need, but then you’ll meet someone you have chemistry with. Someone that only fits half of your criteria. Chemistry may trump it all. Be open-minded.
Being a shitty dater: Although the “rules” of dating are not all black and white, there are some things that most singles know one should and shouldn’t do. For instance, if a man asks a woman out on a first date five days in advance and does not talk to her for the next four days, he needs to contact her to confirm the date. No confirmation = No date. If you don’t think she’ll make other plans, talk to my friend who just got stood up—after an hour of stress, in traffic at a standstill.
Feeling sorry for yourself: You’re single. Not dying of a terminal illness. It’s not that serious. We are born alone and die alone. We can have a lot of fun in between—whether single or in a relationship. When you are tempted to throw yourself a pity party, keep in mind that having an “other half” does not guarantee you happiness. So celebrate your life as a single—it’s the only one you’ve got!
What else would you like to see on The Singles Black List For 2015? Tell me in a quick comment below, or, ya know, just wish me a happy new year!