Science wasn't my favorite subject during my school days, but when it comes to my career in the dating industry, I have surely proven to be a fan of experiments!
First, there was my stint as Ms. New York in the international social experiment at 3six5dates.com. If you haven't been following me, this was the crazy time in my life in which I went on ninety-two dates in one year and blogged about them! If you haven't had a good Date Night in a while and would like to live vicariously through the serial-dating-version-of-me, you can read about my adventures and misadventures here.
Then, of course, there was the time in which I almost got married at first sight on national TV. Yup, I was thisclose to letting the experts on A &E's Married At First Sight lead me to the altar with a stranger. I didn't pull the trigger, but that's a whole other story in itself........
Anyway, this is all more about YOU than me!
It's about your last chance to fall in love in a very unique, experimental way! (And if you are already in love, do a mitzvah and share this blog post with your single friends, why don't ya?)
It can all start with The 36 Questions..................
Have you heard of " The 36 questions survey to fall in love" made famous by this NYTimes Modern Love column? If not, learn what all the buzz is about here.
If you are open to finding love and think these thirty six questions just might help you find it, I have an exclusive invite for you!
Tonight, Tuesday, March 24th, from 7-10PM, the matchmakers at The Matchmaking Institute and I, are taking 20 single men and 20 single women and putting them together for 2 hours at a bar, Jerome's (155 Rivington) in NYC.
We will make sure their admission is free, that light appetizers will be served, and that there will be plenty of drink specials to get the conversations flowing. Yes, we will have them answer the thirty six questions and see what kind of love connections come about! Pretty interesting, huh? All we ask is that these singles be opened minded, as we will be choosing their matches.
Are you or someone you know game? RSVP to firstname.lastname@example.org or call 212 242 4755 if you are interested or want more details. Be sure to tell Lisa that you heard about the event in this blog post. And if you are attending, please do let me know at Rachel@RachelRusso.com , as I'd love to see you there!
So, here's a shocker: I'm a true romantic.
In middle school, the only doodles in my pink notebook were hearts. In fourth grade, my "boyfriend" sent me a gold postcard.
In fifth grade, I sang the song "Stupid Cupid" in my school's talent show--perhaps a sign of the matchmaking career that I would fall into just about a decade later.
In high school, I met my prom date at a traffic light, picked out the perfect dress, over-analyzed every interaction with my girlfriends, and hoped we'd live happily ever after.
Cue to the present day: After ten years working in the dating industry, having heard the war stories from hundreds-maybe thousands- of jaded and seemingly hopeless singles, I still believe in lasting love. (Prom date un-included!) The truth is, I believe that anyone who really wants true love-the totally-fulfilling-transformative-forever-kind-can find it.
But there is a price to pay; whoever says "love don't cost a thing" is a little misguided! There's the price of attracting the person in the first place. For women, it is often the expense of the gym membership, blowouts, manicures, pedicures, waxing, makeup, clothing, the season's "It" bag, etc. For men, there's the price of drinks, dinners, movies, flowers, candy, and all sorts of date night entertainment. There are shared expenses throughout the relationship too, of course. Like the cost of transportation, gifts, psychotherapy, a home, child-rearing, etc. But before singles take on the expenses of courtship or a long term relationship, they've got to, ya know, find their match!
That's where the modern day matchmakers-and maybe you- come in!
Have you ever thought it would be cool to bring people together for love and marriage? That you have the intuitive skills and network of friends to successfully set people up? That you have what it takes to be the next Patti Stanger? That you'd like a career that is lucrative but doesn't involve crunching numbers at a desk? A part-time or full-time career that you could feel good about?
If you are shaking your head "yes," matchmaking could be the industry for you!
Now before you quit your day job and take on the title that will make you the hit at all dinner parties--trust me, I still am--you'll want to make sure this matchmaking business is for you.
In the past, when people have asked me about how to get started in a career as a matchmaker, I have suggested they read my first book A Fab Job Guide To Become A Matchmaker. While this is still a great way to get your feet wet, I am excited to announce that I have something bigger, better, and even more fabulous to help you dive in and explore this potential opportunity.
Allow me to share my most exciting news: I've recently added a new position to my resume. Yes, I've snagged a gig as The Director of Marketing for The Matchmaking Institute in NYC, the only accredited school for matchmaking in the world! I've come on board with a wonderful team at such an exciting time.
Yes, we are in the midst of finalizing plans for The 2015 Matchmakers & Date Coach Conference, the world's largest gathering of love industry professionals, which takes place the last weekend in April. This conference is going to be AMAZING! Just check out the line up of speakers who are the industry professionals on the top of their game.
If this idea intrigues you, take a look at everything here http://matchmakinginstitute.com/conference/
If you are interested to know more and to get a sense of whether or not the conference or career in general could be a fit for you, please shoot me an email at Rachel@RachelRusso.com.
Remember, just as life is too short to go on bad dates, it is also too short to slave your existence away at a job that eats away at your soul.
People look for relationship advice in all kinds of places.
They sit down to get a hair cut and tell their stylist all about their relationship drama.
They share their sob story about their ex over tequila shots with the stranger standing next to them at the bar.
They call psychic hotlines to find out if their spouse is cheating on them with the cleaning lady.
They write in to advice columns to figure out who should be asking who out on a date.
They drive their friends and family crazy with endless text updates and questions about what they could do to get what they want from the person who seems incapable of giving it to them.
They go on retreats in random places in California to gain perspective.
And they hire me, of course, to be their voice of reason.
Some of the best relationship advice that I give is the very relationship advice that I get!
Ultimately, it all comes down to following the wisdom of good ol' William Shakespeare:
"To thine own self be true."
So, there you have it. This is what I consider to be #TheBestRelationshipAdviceEver
If it doesn't feel good to you, if it doesn't honor who you are at your core, and if it makes you lose even an iota of self-respect:
Just. Don't. Do. It.
Figuring out what it means to be true to yourself can be tough. But trust me, once you do it, things get easy!
Need helping discovering the truth in your love life? Email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com to schedule a phone consultation today.