One thing is for sure: In life, we will never have all the answers. We'll always be searching, growing, and wishing we knew then what we know now.
If I had to sit down and write a letter to my younger self-the early twenty-something self who was trying to figure it all out- I'd have a lot to share. Not only because I have acquired considerable wisdom, but, because, frankly, back then, there were some things that I just didn't have the first clue about....
Like how to wash whites, use a credit card, choose the right bra, negotiate a business deal, prevent a hangover, get over a breakup, or, umm, get over myself.
Also, I had started my career as a matchmaker at the ripe old age of 21, but if you had asked me to pick a husband for myself, I would have probably chose some fist-pumping guido with black spikey hair. Because a guy with the ability to dance was definitely in the top three qualities on my wish list! Over a decade later, I would tell my younger self that everything that I thought mattered in a partner didn't really matter at all! NONE. OF. IT. MATTERED. AT. ALL.
Thankfully, today, I have a MUCH better handle on how to chose a partner for myself-not to mention actually make the relationship work-and how to help others find and keep the right relationship too.
Could you use a little help figuring out who your best match is? Or advice on how to ignite the spark, create the romance of your dreams, and/or keep the flame going?
You can feel free to book a complimentary Matchmaking & Dating/Relationship Coaching Consultation. It'd be my pleasure to help you know now what I didn't know then, but surely know now.
Not to be dramatic, but dating and relationships today can be a bonafide nightmare!
There is so much human suffering going on because of the choices-or lack thereof-that people are making in their love life. There is anxiety, loneliness, depression, and sometimes so much worse.....
Although I hate passing on bad news, I recently posted about a horrible tragedy that occurred in NYC as a result of a man and woman meeting on Tinder. I felt compelled to share this, as many singles I know use dating apps. More than ever, I want to help people learn to date more responsibly so that no one else has to go through a NIGHTMARE like this.
FYI: If you are using dating apps, you should click that link above and check out my advice. If you aren't, you should book a complimentary consultation to consider being set up through my matchmaking service. Because, there's nothing like the human touch and a woman's intuition.....
In all of my work with singles and couples, I strive to help people attract and maintain relationships that serve the greater good for both parties. Not only do I want people to have healthy relationships, I want everyone-that means YOU too- to have the relationship of their dreams!
If you've been feeling like your love life is far from a dream, I invite you to consider the notion that relational bliss starts off as an inside job. In other words, your mindset matters big time!
I was reminded of this yesterday when I visited Inscape- a meditation studio in NYC-which is, without a doubt, one of my favorite hideaways in the big city! After getting totally relaxed in one of their guided meditation classes, I stumbled upon this gem in their community space. Figured I'd give it a whirl.
I read the instructions. Chose my "worry". Wrote it on dissolvable coin. Released it into water. Grew impatient when it didn't dissolve right away. (I probably need to meditate more, huh?!) Picked up a capsule. Wrote an intention to replace my worry. Put the capsule in my purse. Immediately realized that I should blog about the importance of releasing limiting beliefs and replacing them with positive affirmations when it comes to finding and keeping the relationship of our dreams.
While this is nowhere near all we need in our arsenal for creating that relational bliss, we can not underestimate the importance of having a positive mindset. Being in this state of mind requires clearing your mind. Hence, the benefits of meditation....
In order to truly feel hope and have faith that love is yours, you need to clear your mind of all the useless junk that is in it. This junk is a result of old "scripts" or stories that you have told yourself-about gender, dating, relationships, love,sex, marriage, etc-for years and years. The junk gets in the way of how you see the world and interact with people that you date and have relationships with. Sometimes, it causes you to perceive your partner's attitudes and behaviors incorrectly. It often makes you behave in ways that sabotage your success in your love life. You don't need it. It is fear. It is anxiety. It is stress. And it is not helping you.
If you want to end the nightmare and manifest your dream relationship, you can take the first step today by trying to rewrite your story. This might be facilitated sitting on a meditation pillow in silence and then taking note of how you feel.
Or it might mean talking it out in the way that I have all of my dating & relationship coaching clients do when they sign up for my Real Talk + Action Plan.
Whatever the case may be, if you have a vision for a better relationship, you can have a better relationship. The relationship of your dreams, in fact. Just get rid of that junk first.
And don't give up on love........