Okay, so I'll admit it: I am feeling like kind of a big deal right now!
I was just voted one of NYC's 12 Best Matchmakers of 2014! It was such a nice surprise to see that I was selected. I was honored and thrilled to read what they wrote about me here
Yes, I'll wear my bragging rights proudly. But now, back to that invitation of yours...
It is indeed last minute, but I would love if you can come join me at The Feast of San Gennaro in New York's Little Italy tomorrow, Saturday, September 20th at 4PM.
I was just today asked to be interviewed onstage to celebrate my work as an author of an Italian American- themed book, How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style.
So, on Saturday at 4PM, I will be on the stage at Mott & Grand, where you can come hear me talk about the secrets for getting over an ex and finding new love Italian American Style. I'll have just a few copies of my books for sale which I can personally autograph for you. Of course, I will be taking special orders for the books--which can also be easily purchased on online at BookLocker, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Itunes, and Kobo too.
Did I mention there will be zeppoles there?
If tomorrow does not work for you, please consider joining me for my Book Signing Party on October 18, 2014 at 6PM The BookMark Shoppe in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn. Post- book signing, there will be an after-party for my birthday at Delia's lounge. You can bet there will be lots of singles there! Matchmaking face on...
Hope you'll get in touch with your inner paesano and join me for one or both of these special events!
For an official invite to my October 18th Book Signing Party & Birthday Soiree, please email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com.
Its official: The new mobile dating app, Hinge, is making an impact on the modern day single’s scene. Just recently expanding to Denver. Partnering with Uber. Helping singles enforce a strict no-rando policy.
But can dating on demand really help the relationship-oriented among us find our match? God knows it has got to be better than Tinder. (Sorry, Tinder, I haven’t even used you, but I hate you for all these reasons.) The average Hinge user has a decent shot at finding someone dateable—but only if they are smart in handling the process. And, yes, even dating-on-demand-is a process.
Hinge seems simple. But just like that old non-relationship-relationship you had in college, when it comes to things progressing into a serious relationship: It’s complicated. If you’ve downloaded or are about to download Hinge on your iPhone or Android, come up with a mobile dating strategy before you go on your very first Hinge date. Consider the following three ways to increase your chances of finding potential compatibility--instead of just finding yourself still single and frustrated.
1. Make quick, smart decisions about who you could actually have romantic interest in. If you know yourself, the type you are looking for, and the kind of relationship that you want, it is easier to decide who to heart and who to “x” out of on Hinge. Absolutely judge people as undesirable matches if you are not feeling their photos or the information they shared. If you are on the fence about potential attraction, you can start a dialogue and see where it goes. On the other hand, if you are turned off by something from the start: Fuhgeddaboutit! (PS: If you need to fuggeddabout your ex, be sure to check out my new book, How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style. Hint: If you aren’t over your ex, you will never find your true match.)
2. Ask your Mutual Friend for the 411. Any information you can get about a potential match from the mutual friend you have in common is good information. Hinge was designed to allow you to further screen dating prospects by asking your friends for their opinion on the potential match. Do not be afraid to ask for the dirt! If you trust your friends’ opinion and ability to play matchmaker, you can definitely facilitate the process of finding the right person for you.
3.Be on the lookout for potential time wasters. When looking for a serious relationship, you don’t have time to spend dating people who will turn out to be time wasters. On a mobile dating app like Hinge, it is easy to spot them. Not only do they text things that indicate they are just looking for something casual, but they literally waste your time by hindering any relationship progression. They wait several hours to days to respond to you. They don’t ask for your number or give you their number. Ultimately, they don’t take things off the app and into real life. #AintNobodyGotTimeForThat
Increase your chances of finding and keeping a great relationship on Hinge with my new Mobile Dating App Strategy Session. For more information on this specialized coaching service, please contact me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com.
An online dating profile is a window into the soul—but only if you know how to read it! In order to find a successful relationship on an online dating site, you not only need a great profile, but you need to become great at identifying who is and isn’t for you with a quick read of their profile.
Developing a talent for profile-reading can take time, but I’ve decided to shorten your learning curve by sharing part of my proven online dating strategy that has gotten my clients married and in relationships.
Here are six steps that I continue to use to help clients find compatible dates on the Internet. I believe you have a better chance of finding the right relationship if you:
1. Inspect every photo. A picture is worth a thousand words. If the photos are painful to look at, don't bother reading the text. If you aren't at least somewhat attracted to someone in a photo, you probably won't be in person. Keep in mind that while some people look better in person, many look worse as they post photos that are not an accurate representation of their appearance.
Red Flags: Profiles with photos taken from far away, Profiles with only headshots, Profiles with every photo taken from same flattering angle, Profiles with only one photo
2.Scroll down for the measurements. Height and body type, that is. See if they seem to match up with the person in the photos. Know that "Curvy" often means a woman is overweight and that a man who lists his height as 5'10 is likely to be 5'8’’ or 5'9’’.
3.Pay attention to very long or very short profiles. Too much text is code for a narcissist who will tell you their whole life story on a first date. Too little text and you run the risk of meeting someone who (at best) isn't serious about dating and (at worst) has a fake profile. Too many
blanks is the equivalent of something shady. (Hello, Catfish!) Too many letters missing from the words and you’ve got to wonder what kind of person can’t even manage to use spell check on
something that has the power to be life-changing.
4.Check out the career and income sections. You’d be a fool to judge a person’s worth by their job title or amount of money in the bank. However, if you are looking for a partner you will be compatible with for the long term, you can’t ignore the impact of work and money on a relationship. If you desire a gainfully employed, financially stable professional, be skeptical of people who don’t at least mention the industry they work in. Sure many singles want to keep the specifics confidential, but they also want to let potential dates know what they do if they are proud of it. If they don’t mention it, they might do something for work they think their potential match may not like. They could also work in a very low-paying field. Note: A lot of successful people don’t list income, because they don’t want to attract gold diggers. A blank here isn’t always a red flag.
5. Assess the level of crazy: Everyone is a little cray-cray, especially after being burned by love. But some profiles should have “major issues” written all over them. There are certain key
words that indicate someone has suffered a lot in a past relationship and is still carrying around baggage. They include: “Psycho Ex,” “I don’t play games,” and “No drama”. Also, profiles written in all caps indicate a person who is going to be a lot to handle. Obviously, weed out the
misogynists, alcoholics, meth addicts, and terrorists.
6. Screen for compatibility: After reading an entire profile, ask yourself how much you have in common with the person. If you haven’t heard of any of the books, magazines, songs, tv shows, or movies they listed as their favorites, you probably have a lot less in common than just different taste. Put the most focus on comparing and contrasting your values around family, work, relationships, religion, money, and lifestyle. If they have travelled to dozens of countries but you’d prefer “to sit on the couch with a bottle of wine” nine times out of ten, you aren’t that compatible.
If you’d rather just hire an online dating expert than become one, check out my Online Dating Consultation + Ghostwritten Glory package. And, ya know, hollah!