The truth is that when it comes to women being relationship-worthy in a man's eyes: Their attitude is everything!
Look, there are a whole lot of singles out there! In fact, singles now outnumber married people in the United States. Just about anywhere, a woman could have breakfast with one guy, lunch with the next, and dinner with another. Surely, we all know women who serial date like its their job, and we know that they are still single.
The problem is that these women are attracting the masses of men on online dating sites as well as mobile dating apps, but they are never attracting the right men for them.
If only they could communicate who they are in their profiles so that they could find their dating "tribe" and turn the rest away.....
One of the most effective ways to catch the eye of Mr. Right online is to share some amazing photos that paint an authentic picture of you. Photos that show off your personality, natural beauty, and leave him wanting more.
After a recent photo shoot with Ricardo Birnbaum, the fabulous NYC photographer behind Ricardo Birnbaum Photography, that I'm recommending to all my clients and friends, I was reminded that a picture really is worth a thousand words.
To the guys who haven't contacted me in years but recently reached out on Facebook to tell me how gorgeous my new photos are: I see you!
And now back to YOU....
If you are a single woman who isn't accepting the fact that men are the most visual creatures on the planet, you are missing out.
On the other hand, if your photos display the right attitude-the confident, fun-loving kind that men can't resist- you've gotten through more than half the battle.
Actually, with the right attitude, you'll see that finding compatible suitors is barely a battle at all!
As it seems, there are plenty of men out there for the taking!
The one thing a girl must do?
Get their attention...... and keep it too!
No matter how many singles complain about the challenges of modern-day dating, one thing is clear: No matter who you are or where you are from, there are more ways now than there have ever been for you to find and maintain your next great relationship.
As a dating and relationship expert with ten years of experience in matchmaking and coaching singles to find their “happily ever after,” I can state with confidence that some ways of finding potential suitors are far better than others. If you are sick of meeting drunk strangers at bars and evaluating endless online dating profiles, keep reading.
For many, mobile dating apps are an increasingly popular way to make love connections. With an endless array of apps out there, it can be difficult to determine which one is worth a download, let alone which is the one that can help you find The One. Allow me to suggest a new app for you. Hint: It’s not Tinder. The app I'd most recommend is Hashsnap and it’s been getting a lot of attention lately, as it is truly unique.
Here are three ways Hashsnap can help you find love:
Hashsnap puts you in the right frame of mind for finding love.
Some say you find love when you stop looking for it. I say that you find love when you start having fun looking for it. Unfortunately, most singles today hate the process of dating and get exhausted by all the endless texting and efforts they must make to even just get on a real date. With Hashsnap, the vibe is fun from the minute you download it. By uploading pictures and videos that correspond with the hashtags #HavingFun, #HiddenTalent, #Yummy, #FitnessTime, #MillionDollarSmile, and #DayMaker, singles are approaching finding love in a lighthearted and fun way that is likely to get results.
Using Hashsnap is less anxiety-inducing than other dating apps.
Modern-day singles constantly worry about how they come across when texting a potential partner. Both men and women stress about how to start the conversation and respond to text. They routinely re-read messages and even send screenshots to their ten
closest friends, asking for advice on how to respond. What a waste of time and energy! With Hashsnap, you could be quickly connecting with a special someone instead of worrying about your opening line, if the person you like understands the tone of your message, or if your friend just gave you really bad dating advice. Judging by some of the cliché and downright awful messages I have seen exchanged on dating apps, there must be a lot of friends out there who are giving really bad dating advice.
Hashsnap facilitates authenticity--which is a prerequisite for a healthy relationship.
In my experience, I have found that one reason so many people stay single despite using dating apps is that they’re not using the apps to express their true selves. If you can't show your true self to someone else, you can’t establish or maintain a healthy relationship. Hashsnap allows users to express who they really are by uploading photos and videos only using the app’s camera and camera filters. For instance, if you are looking for a partner who is into fitness, you can see photos that people have taken at the gym *today* and posted under #FitnessTime, as opposed to photos they took five years and fifty pounds lighter ago and posted on their online dating profile. If singles could just be who they are upfront, it would be a lot faster and easier to find a healthy relationship.
So many relationships would flourish for both men and women if they were to use this app to put them in the right mindset for love, lessen their fears, and help them to be authentic. If you think these things come naturally to today's singles, think again. We could all use a little help in these areas--just like we could all use a little bit more love in our lives.
Ya want to know what is in the secret sauce for a successful relationship? Being with someone who always makes you feel wanted.
In other words, that someone is not the person who runs away at the first sign of a problem nor that someone who runs to another country to cheat on you with a prostitute. (It happens. And not just in Lifetime movies.)
Unfortunately, many of us cling to relationships that don't support our well-being. We stay stuck with people and dynamics that are uncomfortable yet comfortable, because they are similar to what we have experienced before. (With parents, exes, random guys on Facebook who tells us they've pictured themselves cooking pasta with our grandmothers--you know the drill.) The point is: These relationships don't foster our self-growth. Instead, they destroy us.
It's about time people stop letting relationships destroy them and start destroying the hold that these relationships have on them.
I've been helping people get over their exes for quite some time now. I have been persuading them to do it my way--Italian American Style. But you know what?
There are still too many women crying over men who aren't even thinking about them. There are still too many men who had to convince and manipulate women into staying with them. There are still too many people holding on to their stunad exes--stalking their Instagram accounts, wondering what they are doing. Right. Now.
I really wish these people didn't have to go to bed at night feeling unwanted. Whether they feel unwanted by their exes or the person laying right next to them who should be their ex. If only, they could fugheddaboutit and move forward.
There is a way, and I am about to share it!
In honor of The 89th San Gennaro Festival, which is taking place for ten days from Sept 10th-Sept 20th in NYC, I am hosting a telesummit. It is titled: "10 Real Tricks For Getting Over Your Ex & Finding Love--Italian American Style". I'm going to give you all the real tricks--no holding back. ('Cause your ex has done enough of that!)
To learn how to take the steps you need to get the love you want, email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com for information on registration for the telesummit.
People have been talking about mobile dating apps for quite some time now.
If you are single and looking, it’s a conversation worth having--there are tons of singles on dating apps that have found the One—even if it’s just the One for a while—through dating apps. Any dating app can potentially help you find someone else worth knowing, even Tinder--though I doubt that will work for most singles. Of course, I have been pretty vocal about that.
So how's a single to know which app is worth a download and which is just a
waste of battery?
I'll be honest: I’ve done my homework on dating apps for the single clients I coach. I also did some techie research as a judge at The Data of Love Pitch Night last spring. Full disclosure, somewhere between the breakup that prompted my book and the present moment, I've dabbled in a dating app or two for personal reasons. (No, I’ve never met anyone from Tinder!) Without further ado, here are three dating apps that get my stamp of approval and the reasons I recommend them to singles.
No stranger to Hinge, I blogged about three ways to quickly and successfully find your match on Hinge about a year ago. I still think Hinge is one of the best apps out there for relationship-oriented men and women. My favorite thing about Hinge is the “no rando policy.” I like that the app only connects you with Facebook friends or people who know your Facebook friends and their friends. After all, doing your homework never hurts in the dating world.
One of the main reasons I am really digging this new and super unique dating app is because it is based on users uploading authentic pictures and videos that correspond with hashtags, prompting you to show off your personality and not just your appearance. Instead of mind-numbing small talk with strangers via text that teaches you virtually nothing about them, you can start a more engaging conversation based on photos that relate to things like fitness, food, and more. As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. It's nice to see an app that is swimming against the current and bringing some authenticity and personality to the online dating world, because a lasting love is based on a whole lot more than just looks.
Maybe I've seen too many romantic comedies, but there is still something romantic to me about meeting someone in person. Or, umm, sort of in person when it comes to Happn. I’ll admit, I was reluctant at first, because Happn is pretty much Tinder's first cousin, but there are differences between the two that make Happn more appealing. For me, it’s all about the fact that Happn lets you interact with people that you've recently crossed paths with on the street. Being on Happn makes life more exciting--even a walk to buy milk at the grocery store becomes an adventure when you have the possibility of stumbling upon a cute single on Happn.
Have you tried these dating apps? Which concept do you like best? Leave
your comments below.
You need what makes you happy. There, I said it. Now, let me tell you why..........I had no business getting pneumonia this summer.
I grew up with my mother giving me tablespoons of Cod Liver Oil, eating my fruit before I could have dessert, saying 'No" to drugs, and reading the medical book like it was part of the Harry Potter series. (Clearly, I was before Harry's time.)
As an adult, I am pescetarian with a mostly vegan diet. On a daily basis, I drink eight glasses of water, get eight hours of sleep, and take more vitamins and supplements than I can fit in a pill box. I take probiotics instead of antibiotics. I don't smoke cigarettes or abuse drugs. I drink more green juice than vodka. I work out several times a week. And I think its okay to have the salad on a date.
I do yoga, I do Zumba, I meditate, and I write down my stresses in a cute, pink journal. I always wear sunscreen. I try alternative medicines, say positive affirmations, and remove toxins as well as toxic people from my life. I follow a to do list, have a great support system, and am able to give and receive love. And PS: I've never even had bronchitis.
So how the **** did I get pneumonia?
The point of this isn't to figure out the cause of my illness-which is finally cured, thank you-it is to illustrate that I am an example of someone doing nearly everything one can to create and maintain physical, mental, and emotional health--who getting it all right still gets sick.
Before you think that I am suggesting that you cancel your gym membership to binge on booze and French fries because what you do doesn't really matter, allow me to clarify.
It does matter. Most of it matters. Most the time. Like maybe if I wasn't so healthy, I would have had a more serious case of pneumonia and a longer recovery time. Yet some stuff, in the scheme of things, really doesn't matter. So go for the French fries every now and then.
Sometimes, doing what isn't "right" but would make you happy turns out to be right, after all.
This isn't just about me giving you permission to finish that entire order of disco fries. It is about me giving you permission to give yourself permission to LIVE YOUR LIFE.
Especially when it comes to love.
Dating and relationship rules are great. They are useful. They keep people from acting batshit crazy. But sometimes they should be thrown out the window. Along with "check lists" for marriage partners, "scripts" for what one should say and do in every stage of the relationship, and expectations from the friends and family who will never have to live with the choices you make in your love life.
Those things may or may not bring you what you want in your love life. Sometimes, you can be single and ready to meet The One. You could be visualizing your soul mate, and blocking all of your exes from social media--cause you understood me when I told you to fuggedaboudit! You could be putting yourself "out there", having the right body language and not giving your body to anyone or everyone. You could be waiting for someone special.
You could be doing all these RIGHT things and still not meet anyone dateable--let alone The One. Other times, you could be doing all the WRONG things-even, God forbid, sleeping with your ex in a drunken stupor before puking in a public place--only to find that the guy holding back your hair is your future husband. (By the way, this is NOT based on a true story!)
Some things are just meant to be, while some things aren't. Maybe its fate. Maybe its just the luck of the draw.
Lately, I've been thinking that if you really want to hit the jackpot in love, you should quit doing what is right sometimes and start doing what makes you happy. If they are the same thing, well, congratulations! You just won the lottery!