So, that's an image of me, today, and it marks my last social media post of 2018. I decided its time for a little detox from social media and email--just until after the first of the year. Trust me, I got this....
Back in 2017, I was given a scholarship for a week-long healing retreat, that turned out to be quite the experience! Part of the deal: For seven days, there was no contact with the outside world. No Books. TV. Music. Calls. Emails. Texts. Or Social Media. Because the goal was to look within and experience the present with a bunch of strangers who became friends....
In case you are wondering, it was amazing!
I did the retreat mid-year, but in retrospect, the end of a year is the perfect time to do a retreat or detox of some kind. Its the ideal opportunity to get quiet, to reflect on your goals for the new year, and to, you know, disappear.
By disappear, I don't mean GHOSTING people! Because as I recently shared, that is one dating trend that I'd love for us to get rid of in 2019.
Actually, I have a lot to say about ghosting, and I just finished off the work year by doing a fun interview on an important topic with my friend & colleague, Mike Goldstein. Before I peaced out on 2018, I wanted to take a moment to share this with you. Check out "Why Do Men That Claim They Want Commitment Disappear?" on YouTube. Clearly, this one is for the ladies, but we go deep into the topic and the gender differences, and I believe men can benefit from listening too!
Speaking of which...
Ladies, if you're looking to find a quality man (who would never ghost you) in the new year, please don't hesitate to apply to my confidential database for introductions to amazing men--at no cost to you!
Gentleman, I will be taking on new matchmaking clients in 2019, so I invite you to contact me if you are interested in having an experienced matchmaker find compatible ladies for you!
Of course, I coach both men, women, and sometimes work with couples too, so I invite you all to schedule a complimentary consultation if you are in the market for a dating or relationship coach.
Also, the social media detox. Give it a try now. You'll thank me later.
Ever since I was a little girl, I always liked to ask people questions. Some things never change, as I continue to ask away in both my professional and personal life.
Note: I think The 36 Questions are totally fair game for Date #1!
Today, I have five questions for you--questions that could reveal really meaningful answers. The ones that could truly make a difference in your love life--no matter what your status.
Last week I urged you to do these two things for your love life before Jan 1, so I figured I might as well help your cause.
If you are serious about getting what you want in the romance department, grab a pen and paper and write down your responses to the following:
1. How do you want your love life to look going forward in 2019 and beyond? Bonus points if you can envision it all with clear detail!
2. What are your deal breakers and boundaries for your relationship or relationship-to-be? You do have some non-negotiables, right?
3. Are you satisfied with your life overall; if not, what isn't working for you? How can you change it? The not-so-secret-secret: If you are otherwise ******* miserable, a relationship alone won't change that.
4. Do you have unresolved emotional issues from past relationships? Nothing can sabotage like an attachment to an ex.....
5. Do you have decent relationship skills? The bar is set pretty low these days, so if you know how to communicate with more than a smartphone, resolve conflict, and generally function in partnership, you are ahead of the game.
So what did the five questions say about you?
If you learned something that you'd like to discuss in a coaching context, don't hesitate to book a complimentary consultation today.
Yup. It's just about the end of the year.
While many businesses are slowing down-as people are drinking spiked Eggnog wearing ugly sweaters while pretending to be working- there's time to ponder love and life. Sure, things can also be hectic this time of year, but there's always time to think about love....
For some of us, the hustle and bustle have to do with deciding which gifts to buy those loved ones who are crowding around the Christmas tree. Or were just lighting a menorah. Gift-giving can be particularly stressful when buying for significant others--especially in new relationships. And it starts young.
So what do I think you should do this holiday season--besides buying a thoughtful gift for your special someone? (If, of course, you have one.)
1. Take stock of how things are going in your love life--no matter what your status.
Are your online dating profiles working for you or against you?
Are you dating someone who still hasn't committed to you--leaving you feeling unstable and insecure?
Is holiday loneliness getting the best of you--bringing up old feelings and the desire to reach out to people you'd rather not think about? Like the ex you tried to get over? The one who got away?
The first step to getting what you want in your love life is understanding your reality and making decisions based on that--instead of the fantasy in your head.
2. Come up with a PLAN for the new year.
Wouldn't it be amazing if 2018 really was the last year that you struggled in your love life? And 2019 was the one you made all your dreams come true?
If you believe that you deserve more than a bunch of boring dates, an emotionally shut down partner, or "crumbs" from someone who could take or leave a relationship with you, it is time to take action!
What you really need is a clear step by step protocol to get more exposure to quality singles, help your current partner give you what you deserve, provide that person one last chance ..... or whatever else it is your heart desires. Because if you keep doing what you have always done, you will always get what you've always got.
There are SO many ways to go about transforming your love life. There's a whole world full of opportunities and ways to empower yourself with knowledge. You could scour the self-help/relationships section in your local bookstore, gets tons of advice from podcasts and videos, talk to a professional like myself. You may even want to talk to God--if that's your thing. Or just get really quiet on a meditation chair.
Just, please, find the courage inside of you to do these two things before the end of the year! You can thank me later.