Dating & Relationship Expert, Matchmaker, Author, Speaker, Image Consultant, Sounding Board, Educator, Non-Practicing Marriage & Family Therapist, Lover, Fighter, and Ride Or Die Chick.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. How did you become a dating and relationship expert?
I replied to a Craigslist ad for a "Unique Social Work Opportunity" when I graduated from Rutgers University with a psychology degree back in 2005. I met the CEO of an online matchmaking start-up at a Starbucks on the Upper West Side of NYC, got hired as a Matchmaker, and continued to work in the field while completing my master's degree in Marriage & Family Therapy. And, yes, I am still here. I do this full time and haven't worked as a waitress/bartender since college. Hello, World.
2. So you are like the female Hitch?
Yes, actually. I've made great matches and coached people from the early stages of dating all the way to long term relationships and marriage. I'm also a bonafide wing woman!
3. And you are also kind of a Carrie Bradshaw, huh?
That's right. I mean I did go on 92 dates in one year and blog about them as Ms. NY of 3six5dates.com. I've lived that life and even dated a Mr. Big.
4. But wait, you are a Cyrano de Bergerac too?
Ummm, yeah. How old are you? I'm a Libra, so I'm all about balance and can wear many hats. I love to ghostwrite my clients' online dating profiles and messages. I knew I had real talent when I got a client married almost seven years years ago by ghostwriting his online dating messages to his now-wife. (Yes, they invited me to the wedding, and they are still married--with children!)
5. Are you currently accepting dating, relationship, and image coaching clients? Do I have to live in NYC to work with you?
Absolutely--and you can live anywhere! If you are in NYC or the tri-state area, I'd love to meet you face-to-face. For those out of area, I can also do Skype, FaceTime, phone sessions, and potentially travel to you. Note: I have a passport, and I am not afraid to use it.
6. Do you still to do traditional matchmaking?
Yes. I do work with a handful of private matchmaking clients at any given time. If I feel I can't match you, I can refer you to a matchmaker who can in just about any location---thanks to my affiliation with Matchmaking Institute.
7. Wait you work with a school for matchmakers?
Yes, The Matchmaking Institute is located in NYC, and I am The Director of Education there. I've co-created and am currently teaching a twelve week online training program for entrepreneurs who want to be matchmakers. Ever since I published A FabJob Guide to Become A Matchmaker, I have been consulting with those who wanted to get started in the matchmaking business.
8. Do you do any other type of business consulting?
Mhhhm. I consult with people who want to start dating and relationship coaching businesses as well online dating sites and mobile dating apps. I've also coached new authors on book publishing and even ghostwrote a book for a woman I met in a nail salon!
9. What if I just have a quick and/or complicated question about my love life and need your advice?
Let me cut to the chase: It's going to cost you. I've given out free dating and relationship advice to friends, friends of friends, and strangers who've contacted me from Tulsa, Oklahoma for years. I wish I could still help everyone, but there are not enough hours in the day. Please only contact me for advice if you intend to become a client. Otherwise, check out my blogs, videos, and articles for tons of free advice. Listen, a girl's got to eat. And there's no free lunch.
8. Are you serious? You are a single girl dating in NYC. You get free meals all the time.
There comes a time in many a young woman's life where she no longer dates just to date. She knows what she wants and doesn't want to waste her makeup, give up her Saturday nights, or lose her beauty sleep until she finds it.
9. Speaking of money, do you take insurance?
Sorry, I can't. Although I have my master's degree in Marriage & Family Therapy and have spent many hours doing psychotherapy with singles and couples, I am not a licensed therapist and am unable to take insurance. I can accept payments via cash, check, or credit card via PayPal, Venmo, or Square.
10. But you are a dating and relationship expert. How come you aren't married?
What you are really asking is: Can I help you find marriage if I haven't found it myself? You are in luck, because I can! Just as a doctor can help you get rid of cancer without actually having cancer, I can help you remove the blocks that are preventing you from finding and keeping your own happily- ever- after. Oh, you still want to know why I am single? Ask my exes! Just kidding--kind of. To be honest, my profession makes it both easier and harder to find love. But don't you worry--I'll get mine!
11. Where can I learn more about you + what you are currently up to?
You can get access to my weekly updates delivered straight to your inbox. If you want to stay current with my projects, writing, events, and fresh advice, just go back to the Homepage and fill out your info. (Don't worry, I won't send you SPAM) You could also "like" my Facebook Fan Page and follow me on Instagram. Oh, and you should probably follow me on Twitter @RachelTRusso. Because you could learn a lot about someone in 160 characters or less.
12. What's a Ride Or Die Chick?
As per Urban Dictionary: "A chick that ain't afraid to be down with her man. She'll do anything her man needs her to do."
In my case, almost anything. Loyalty is where it is at!