It’s not uncommon knowledge that there are a lot of single people in the world.
In fact, singles actually outnumber the married folk in this day and age. Let’s face it: People are living longer, and forever is a very long time!
Still, there are tons of singles out there who would love nothing more than to be stuck with someone (special) for the rest of their lives. So what gives? Why are they still single?
In my ten years of experience in the love industry, I’ve come to believe that people are single for a reason. And some people are always single. Many of them fall into one or more of the following four categories:
The single who is stuck on an ex
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: You can’t move forward if you are looking backward. To put it simply, when it comes to your ex, you need to just…..Fogetaboutit! You can choose to get over your ex Italian American Style or any other way you see fit; the important thing is that you mend your broken heart and move on! Your status will only change from “single” to “in a relationship” when you are truly mentally and emotionally ready to let a new love into your life.
The single who is closed off to new experiences
You might think that you are open, but be honest with yourself. How many social invitations do you turn down? Do you roll your eyes at the idea of speed dating, cringe at online dating, and think that you aren’t desperate enough to go to a matchmaking service? You have to be open to new experiences—no matter how out of the box they may seem. One thing I’d recommend to NYC singles is a curated experience like that at Underground Unattached. I recently went to one of these private events and can tell you firsthand what an incredible and unique opportunity it is for making romantic connections—as well as business and platonic connections too. You can truly never know how you will meet the love of your life!
The single who is obsessed with finding the perfect match
If you always have to have a date for Sunday-Funday- just to make sure the guy/girl isn’t better than your Saturday Night date-this is you! If you go on more dates in one week than any of your friends do in months, there is a good chance you are chasing something that doesn’t exist. There is no perfect person out there. There is only someone who could be perfect for you if you stop swiping right and just be happy to get to know the person right in front of you. More dates isn’t always the answer! There is something to be said for deleting all your mobile dating apps, ending the vicious serial dating cycle, and committing to a relationship with someone perfectly imperfect.
The single who is obsessed with being the perfect match
Are you noticing a common theme here? That’s right, no one is perfect! Surely, I agree with matchmaking experts like Patti Stanger, who I had the pleasure of meeting and learning from in LA last week, that believe singles need to improve themselves before they find love. However, I think singles need to realize that they are actually worthy of love just as they are. Right. Now. Not when they lose ten pounds, write their first novel, or have ten thousand more dollars in the bank. Love does not happen on a timeline. You can meet your perfect match anytime.
Recognize yourself or someone you care about in these descriptions? Send me an email at Rachel@RachelRusso.com to change your single status once and for all.