I just received a very random and eye-opening phone call from a man who works at a Manhattan florist shop.......
"Was it you who got the delivery of three dozen roses?" he asked.
I replied: "Hmmm. Not that I know of. But I might have an ex-boyfriend who should be sending me three dozen roses right about now!"
The man laughed and said: "Well, the roses don't have to be from an ex, you know. They could be from a new boyfriend too."
Wow. He was absolutely right.
But I had automatically thought:
Three dozen roses?! Some guy must have really f***ed up!
And then.......I thought of my ex!
Would you have thought of your ex too? Would you have hoped that he or she-cause women can send flowers too-sent you the roses?
One thing is for sure: You can't have a better tomorrow if you're still thinking about yesterday.
So if you ARE that ex who should be sending flowers when you hope you are lucky enough for the chance to back together:
Stop holding grudges. Stop reliving the past. A relationship will only work a second (or third) time around if both parties let go of the past and focus on moving forward...together. And, clearly, dude, you need to send those roses.......
If you are the ex who is lucky enough to immediately realize you should just forget about the flowers and take the steps you need to get over your ex: Well, then you have been luckier than me. Womp Womp.
Read my book. 'Cuz I wouldn't have written it if I hadn't needed to learn it too. You are going to need help getting over your stunad ex though. Trust me--its not as easy as it seems--even when you know you need to.
And if you are the guy at the florist: Well, thanks for being a great mirror!