An online dating profile is a window into the soul—but only if you know how to read it! In order to find a successful relationship on an online dating site, you not only need a great profile, but you need to become great at identifying who is and isn’t for you with a quick read of their profile.
Developing a talent for profile-reading can take time, but I’ve decided to shorten your learning curve by sharing part of my proven online dating strategy that has gotten my clients married and in relationships.
Here are six steps that I continue to use to help clients find compatible dates on the Internet. I believe you have a better chance of finding the right relationship if you:
1. Inspect every photo. A picture is worth a thousand words. If the photos are painful to look at, don't bother reading the text. If you aren't at least somewhat attracted to someone in a photo, you probably won't be in person. Keep in mind that while some people look better in person, many look worse as they post photos that are not an accurate representation of their appearance.
Red Flags: Profiles with photos taken from far away, Profiles with only headshots, Profiles with every photo taken from same flattering angle, Profiles with only one photo
2.Scroll down for the measurements. Height and body type, that is. See if they seem to match up with the person in the photos. Know that "Curvy" often means a woman is overweight and that a man who lists his height as 5'10 is likely to be 5'8’’ or 5'9’’.
3.Pay attention to very long or very short profiles. Too much text is code for a narcissist who will tell you their whole life story on a first date. Too little text and you run the risk of meeting someone who (at best) isn't serious about dating and (at worst) has a fake profile. Too many
blanks is the equivalent of something shady. (Hello, Catfish!) Too many letters missing from the words and you’ve got to wonder what kind of person can’t even manage to use spell check on
something that has the power to be life-changing.
4.Check out the career and income sections. You’d be a fool to judge a person’s worth by their job title or amount of money in the bank. However, if you are looking for a partner you will be compatible with for the long term, you can’t ignore the impact of work and money on a relationship. If you desire a gainfully employed, financially stable professional, be skeptical of people who don’t at least mention the industry they work in. Sure many singles want to keep the specifics confidential, but they also want to let potential dates know what they do if they are proud of it. If they don’t mention it, they might do something for work they think their potential match may not like. They could also work in a very low-paying field. Note: A lot of successful people don’t list income, because they don’t want to attract gold diggers. A blank here isn’t always a red flag.
5. Assess the level of crazy: Everyone is a little cray-cray, especially after being burned by love. But some profiles should have “major issues” written all over them. There are certain key
words that indicate someone has suffered a lot in a past relationship and is still carrying around baggage. They include: “Psycho Ex,” “I don’t play games,” and “No drama”. Also, profiles written in all caps indicate a person who is going to be a lot to handle. Obviously, weed out the
misogynists, alcoholics, meth addicts, and terrorists.
6. Screen for compatibility: After reading an entire profile, ask yourself how much you have in common with the person. If you haven’t heard of any of the books, magazines, songs, tv shows, or movies they listed as their favorites, you probably have a lot less in common than just different taste. Put the most focus on comparing and contrasting your values around family, work, relationships, religion, money, and lifestyle. If they have travelled to dozens of countries but you’d prefer “to sit on the couch with a bottle of wine” nine times out of ten, you aren’t that compatible.
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