This Valentine’s Day season, I have love on the brain-and in my energy-more than ever! I'm writing from my couch, curled up with my sweet baby girl, Serafina Simone, who just turned ten weeks old.
“It goes by so fast,” they say. Well, I am savoring every single moment and doing all of the things-even those unpleasant ones like extra messy diaper changes and exhausting night feedings-with love and joy.
While I’ve been surviving-and often thriving-in my new role as Serafina’s mommy, I have also thought deeply about how I’ll balance my career and motherhood—not to mention my own love life, in the near future. That’s right: One day, I’ll soon be ready to find my own lasting love, as I chose to have her as a solo mom-sans the baggage from an ex-as I conceived her with donor sperm via IVF. I just prioritized motherhood, you see, but, of course I want to find my person—as do all of the people I help find their own.
Re: Lasting love …..
As I recently shared: Most single women probably don’t think that having a child on their own could help them find a partner, but, my knowledge of relationship dynamics from my career in matchmaking and dating & relationship coaching has convinced me otherwise!
Although one never knows what the future may hold, I wholeheartedly believe having my beautiful daughter on my own will actually help my love life! As I discussed in my recent episode of the Pregnantish podcast, it really takes the pressure off dating when you aren’t looking for the future father of your child. A lot of men are drawn to this lighter energy, as well as the confidence, boldness, and independence that comes with this life choice.
While I am not currently dating, I have already received my share of attention, genuine compliments, and even an offer for an infant car seat from a guy who never met me. I have been talking a lot about solo parenting and romance lately, both publicly (Hello, Instagram Live) and among friends.
I was so happy to see that a journalist from Insider heard my podcast interview and decided to do a story on my views of how solo motherhood mixes with dating, as I’d love to share my perspective with women who are thinking about doing this but are fearful that they will, you know, end up old and alone with cats. It doesn’t have to be this way, and I hope to be living proof! You can check out the article for more of my thoughts here.
In the meantime, I will enjoy my journey transitioning into a working mom —with the greatest love of all by my side! With my maternity leave officially ending in two weeks, I look forward to helping people- in the NYC tri- state area and beyond-create and maintain their own versions of happily-ever-after through matchmaking and dating & relationship coaching. If interested, feel free to email Rachel@RachelRusso.com for details on special Valentine's Day discounted rates from now through the end of February.
Indeed, this February 14th is an extra special Valentine’s Day for me, as I am loving this new version of my happily-ever-after. I hope it is a great day for you too—whether you are single or coupled. It is always a great day to have a great day.