I got frustrated the other day--like really-annoyed, I-need-to-get-on-a-treadmill-and-blast-angry-music-for-sixty-minutes-kind of frustrated.
I was not only frustrated at the person who was frustrating me-yes, this involves a guy-but I was annoyed at the response I got when I confided in a friend about the whole situation.
In that moment, I was reminded of what I had previously experienced and have warned others about for years: Sometimes, no matter how well-meaning your friends and family are, they will have something to say that inevitably frustrates you to no end.
Sometimes, the people who care about you most just can't help you in the way you need to be helped. Their own biases and motivations and experiences with love and life get in the way. They just can't be objective. They weren't trained that way. And even if they were, they have a relationship with you that makes them less than neutral. They have thoughts, feelings, and emotions that impact anything and everything they tell you.
In some cases, the more people you ask and the more opinions you get, the harder it can be to find your truth. Its the paradox of choice. Its the analysis paralysis. Its the thing that wants to make you want to scream your lungs out. Because all your buttons have been pushed, and you are now more confused than when you started asking people for advice.
Being a Dating & Relationship Coach, I know the true benefit of receiving coaching from an objective, trained professional. Not only have I seen my clients experience all the joys that coaching brings into their life, but I have experienced them personally.
Recently, I traded a month-long dating coaching program for a month-long life coaching program with Chicago-based Life Coach, Ryan Mendenhall. I had such awesome breakthroughs with Ryan, that I decided to write a testimonial about it! Without a doubt, I believe both life and dating/relationship coaching can lead you to that one thing that can make your life much better.
That one thing: Finding your relationship truth. Or in other words, the relationship style that works best for you.
Why relationships? Because those are the things that make us happiest in life. When we are on our deathbeds, love, romance, friendship, and family are the things that will cross our mind. Really.....we all just want to be loved. But we have to figure out the way that we want to be loved.
Why all this figuring out? Because relationships are not one-size-fits-all.
There's no better example that comes to mind of someone who has searched for his best relationship fit than the one-and-only-Neil Strauss, who I had the pleasure of meeting last week at his book signing for, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships,
I must say: This book about monogamy, non-monogamy, and all sorts of variations has been blowing my mind; I recommend it wholeheartedly!
But mostly, I recommend you finding your relationship truth! Whether through coaching,
living vicariously through sex addicts on communes, or just good old-fashioned courtship, your truth will set you free.