Its the most wonderful time of the year again, but in a world where the lights on your Christmas tree can mess with your Wifi connection, things can get pretty stressful.
Despite all of the crazy busy-ness, if we have someone special in our life, we should make making them feel loved a priority.
As 2015 comes to a close, people want to be merry, love the one they are with, and, well, find a new love for the new year if they are still single. If you fall into the latter category, please get in touch, as I am currently working some matchmaking magic and may be able to introduce you to the love of your life!
Already newly dating someone or in a committed relationship or marriage?
Well, there are tons of ways you can show your partner love during the holiday season. If you've never read the best selling book, The 5 Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, I'm about go give you The Cliff Notes with a holiday twist. :)
This book, written by a marriage counselor with thirty plus years of experience, stresses that people need to be loved in different ways. If you were sitting in my shoes as a matchmaker & dating/relationship coach, it would be super-obvious that there are as many ways to express and receive love as there are people in the world!
Okay, kind of. I mean, love is abundant, right? It does make the world go round. Also, it would be obvious that I have really good taste in shoes.....
Anyways, some people don't get that people speak unique "love languages". They think their boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife doesn't love them because they are not expressing love in the way that they would express it.
As Chapman so beautifully illustrates, relationships work best when people are loved in the ways that makes them feel loved. So, the goal is to figure out what your partner wants and give it to them as freely as you can.
Because when your man wants apples, you don't give him oranges, girlfriend!
In fact, right now, you should probably be giving him eggnog by the fireplace, but I digress....
So, to cut to the chase, you can show love with:
1. Words of affirmation: Because we all love compliments, and it is so easy to give them when everyone is looking all glitzy and glam in their holiday best!
2. Quality time: By the fireplace. With eggnog. End of story.
3. Receiving gifts: You can shop online or in the stores, but remember sometimes the best gifts are experiences. More praise for the importance of the second love language.....
4. Acts of Service: Sure, its nice to go to the soup kitchen and feed the homeless on Christmas Day, but there are acts of service you can do for your partner right within your own home. Whether its breakfast in bed, hanging up those picture frames she's been begging you to hang since last year, or simply taking out the garbage, doing a little favor for someone you care about
5. Physical Touch: Massages. Sexy Time, Or, you know, just holding their hand at the moment they need it most.
Are you feeling the love?