When it comes to dating and relationships, I tell my clients and friends to leave no stone left unturned!
The truth is that you really never know how or where you will find your match. The only thing that really matters is that you find him, right? After all, I don't really know anyone who talks about how horrible it was that she met her husband on a, gasp, dating app--instead of locking eyes across the room at a Sadie Hawkins dance like grandma and grandpa did. I mean...its 2017!
As a matchmaker and dating coach, one of my greatest wishes is that more people would be more open to the notion that love could happen anywhere. Like, literally anywhere! Online. Offline. In an elevator. While waiting to get your teeth cleaned at your dentist's office. I especially wish women would embrace this notion that maybe all of those fairy tales and romantic comedies have led us down the wrong path. In real life, there isn't always a happy ending. He doesn't always come chasing after you at the airport just before you are about to board the plane. In the end, you are likely to learn that the guy who treated you like a jerk five years ago still treats you like a jerk today. No, he didn't transform into your prince. He didn't become your bestie. And he never selflessly introduced you to one of his friends who he knew in his heart of hearts would be an even better match for you.
Ah. Friends. It seems like every girl is comfortable meeting her significant other through a friend. Sure, that seems ideal--you already have common ground. But what do you do when none of your friends have friends to introduce you to? When they are all married and in relationships and don't throw anymore house parties--let alone leave the house to meet you for a drink? What do you do when your guy friends say that they don't know any guys who aren't a**holes and your girl friends say that if they knew a great guy they'd be dating him! The struggle is real,, people, as evidenced by the texts my friend sent in the screenshot above.
Well, you can make new friends, of course. I know this is easier said than done for some people. Location plays a role. Sometimes, it is challenging to meet like-minded people in the suburbs. However, it can be just as hard to meet friends in a city where everyone is always travelling. Age can make it difficult too--with the general consensus being that it is hard to make friends-particularly girl friends-post-college. Or when you aren't working for a big company where everyone goes to weekly happy hours.
If you are wondering what a girl is to do, this is where the leaving no stone unturned comes in. You can do something bold. Like download an app that will help you meet your new best friends! I am talking about Bumble BFF, of course! Have you heard of the app? I think its incredibly exciting that there is an app that can help women find friends! Not only because having girl friends is such a great way to add joy to your life, but because if you expand your network of single girls, you'll increase your chances of finding the one. Trust me, its the women out there who are generally playing matchmaker for other women--its not the men. Making new friends is an interesting way to accomplish your goal of finding love, and you;ll never know the possibilities that each new friend can open up for you. The end destination-finding the love of your life-is, of course, incredible, but it is the journey that counts!