Are you fooling yourself?

Whether you are single or in a relationship, you aren't going to just magically improve your love life because you want to. 
 
Just because you have a vision board, just because you have prayed, or just because you know your deserve more than this.....
 
Things don't change unless you are sick and tired of how they are. 
You don't stop being single until you are so over being single that you finally do something that will make a difference. 
 
If your relationship is broken, things won't improve just because you'd like them to. Unless both you AND your partner are fully committed to change, you are just going to get more of that same unsatisfying dynamic. PS: If you aren't willing to WORK at a relationship, stay single.
 
Confession: I learned the latter the hard way, and more than once too! Sometimes, it takes a while for things to sink in, and as they say: The lesson repeats until you learn it. When it comes to trying to work on a broken relationship, giving an ex a second chance, etc., it is crucial to make sure that you aren't fooling yourself.
 
Are you more invested in the relationship than your partner is? Are you doing all the work? Do you want it to work more than he or she does?
 
No matter how "in" you are, it the other person has a foot out the door, the relationship has a shelf life. If you are the one with your foot out, kindly let the other person go. Don't hold on for selfish reasons-out of comfort, loneliness, etc-when you know a relationship is wrong for you. The relationship will not be right for either of you unless you both have a strong desire to change.
 
You must also both have the ability to work through your issues. Is it realistic that things could change enough for you to both be happy? Ideally, you'd have evidence that change is possible before you waste one more second in brokenness. There is always a risk in love, but, in my experience, giving even a fractured relationship another go on a "chicken wing and a prayer" is a risky, risky business. Protect your heart and invest wisely, my friends! 
 
But, if all else fails, and your heart gets broken.......Don't worry, life will go on.
 
I am saddened by all the people who give up on love after a bad breakup, abuse, divorce, addiction, or any other trauma. And I get it. It is hard to move on. However, I truly believe it IS possible to heal your heart and get over even the worst things you can imagine! This is why I'm so excited to support Jacinth Headlam, award-winning actress and motivational speaker, with her new book, Love After. 
 
Next month, I will be participating in her NYC Book Launch Event! I will be making a special guest appearance, giving a brief talk, and selling copies of my own book, How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style, at her launch party in Brooklyn, on Feb 9th. For more info & tix, go here.  
 
To stop fooling yourself and get real about transforming your love life, book a complimentary coaching consultation with me today!