Everything Is (Not) Fine

Want to know one of the biggest, most frequently told lies?

This one has nothing to do with pharmaceutical companies, politicians, or sugar-loaded, processed foods trying to pass for “natural”. It has everything to do with two simple words that are frequently uttered by women (and in all fairness, men) of all ages, races, and ethnic backgrounds. Perhaps, you’ve heard them. They go something like this:

“I’m fine.”
   Or
“But, really, I am totally okay with the fact that he’s cheated on me fifteen times in the last six months. No marriage is perfect. We love each other and are working on our relationship.”

When what you really mean is:
“I’m settling for a relationship that I don’t deserve, but I will put up with this mistreatment and the false hope that my husband will change so I don’t have to go through the pain and inconvenience of divorce.”

Keeping up appearances is not all fun and games. Just ask Ben Affleck & Jennifer Garner!
The part that’s really the pits: When you start to believe your own lies.

Now is the point in which I ask you to get honest.  Is the story of your life that you are currently writing a work of fiction? Or are you keeping it real?

It’s 2015, and in case you are living under a rock, there’s no need to “fake it til ya make it” when it comes to your love life, because now even gay people can get married in every state! (And, don’t read me wrong, I am very happy that our country has come to their senses about that, but I digress…)

There’s (arguably) no need to…
Pretend you like girls when you like boys.
Smile when he makes you want to cry. 
Stay married just for the kids……And the list goes on and on.

It’s almost the 4th of July, and that is always a good time to talk about freedom. Freedom is something you can exercise in your love life. Whether the freedom to say goodbye to your ex or to say just what’s on your mind. The freedom to listen to your gut and to follow your heart.

Because when it comes to love, nothing is better than the real thing.