Yesterday, I engaged in one of my favorite lunch-hour activities: The pedicure.
Instead of going to my usual midtown east nail salon, I decided to try a new spot that enticed me with a considerably discounted price.
Unfortunately, the seduction was short lived. Between the noisy construction going on across the street, the stench of a poorly ventilated nail salon, and the employee who was clearly bluffing about the wait time, it took less than a minute for me to decide this place wasn't for me. Not. Even. Close.This business would never have me at hello.
People, like businesses, can either powerfully attract or strongly repel.
If you want to pick a target, any target, and seduce him or her, you must obey the following rules of seduction.
Rule # 1 Figure out what your target wants: Finding out what a particular man or woman really wants isn't always simple. People are unique, yet certain groups share common denominators. Knowing someone's motivations and desires is crucial to seducing him or her. If you have no idea what you are doing, don't worry: I can probably help!
Last Thursday. I spilled the beans for the lovely NYC girls who attended my Single Ladies Night Out. Women always want to know what attractive, successful men want in a female counterpart. Well I told them! (Big thanks to all who showed up at the event. How much fun did we have?) Anyway.....knowledge is power, and you can't seduce anyone without it.
Rule # 2 Set the mood: As William Shakespeare said "All the world is a stage." If you want your own romantic comedy to end with a happily ever after instead of you falling on your @$$ as someone else gets the guy or girl, you better prepare your target for a positive emotional state. There are so many ways to create a romantic mood. All you have to do is appeal to the senses. (Note: Don't be like that poorly ventilated nail salon!) When you see the person you want to attract, always look your best. If you plan a date, choose a venue where the vibe is calm and the scene is aesthetically pleasing. Remember, you can only play your part once the stage is set.
Rule # 3 Act when the time is right: Some say, "Now or never." But sometimes, now really isn't the right time. If you want to know the time that is never good to go all in and seduce someone with the intent of your dates leading to a serious relationship, I'll give you a hint. It is when your target still has feelings for his or her ex. The heart does not move on until the heart wants to move on. If you or someone you know wants to help your heart move on, I will (repeatedly) suggest you buy my book:How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style. (Trust me, if it worked for me, it can't work for you.) On the other hand, if you or someone you know is interested in giving a relationship one last chance -on wait for it, wait for it, reality TV- you should probably get in touch with my friends at The Casting Firm. Mostly, I think exes are exes for a reason. But sometimes, there is enough reason to salvage a relationship.
And for the rest of us, Happy Memorial Day Weekend!