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No matter what their relationship status, it always seems like they’ve got something to complain about.
When they are single, they talk about how few good dating prospects they have. How online dating is horrible. How they hate going out to bars.
When they are dating, they wonder why it always seems like they don’t like the ones who like them, while the ones they like don’t like them.
When they are in a relationship, they are anxious about getting to the next step. They stress about when it will be “Facebook Official”, when they’ll get engaged, when they’ll start baby-making. And when they are going through a breakup, well, they are just miserable.
As a professional in the dating industry, I get paid to help people not hate their love lives. Based on nearly a decade of experience, I predict that most people would be a lot happier in dating and relationships if they could just follow a few simple rules.
Without further delay, here are The Rules of Not Hating Your Love Life. You should probably consider them. Because, what do you have to lose?
Rule # 1: Stop following other’s peoples’ shitty dating and relationship advice.
Did you ever realize that when it comes to love lives, everyone seems to think they are an expert? There are a lot of people walking around-some who are your well-meaning family members and friends-who really have no idea what they are talking about! They are giving you opinions that are based on nothing other than, drum roll please, their opinions! Otherwise, they are recycling some cliché advice from some washed-up “expert” who wrote a book that should have been taken out with yesterday’s trash. Seek advice from people who actually have the love life that you want and/or have a proven track record of helping others achieve success in their love lives. And stop listening to those preaching the self-love-is-all-you-need-bullshit.
Rule # 2: Give up (false) hope.
There is hope, and then there is false hope. Yes, you need to listen to your heart to find and keep true love, but you also have to use your brain. If it walks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck; well, you know, it’s probably a duck. Love is eternally optimistic, but don’t be a fool by investing your time, energy, and emotions into someone who will just disappoint you. Don’t turn your head the other way when your partner is unfaithful. Don’t overlook twenty-something red flags. Be honest with yourself. Whether you are dating someone who will never commit or want to commit to someone who has showed no signs of changing into the person you want them to be, get real. If your hope is false hope, give it up.
Rule #3: Do something about it.
If you aren’t happy with your love life, change it! Transformation doesn’t happen overnight, but you will not get to a better place if you do not start somewhere. Instead of complaining and/or staying stuck in the purgatory of indecision, make up your mind and do something! Doing anything to get unstuck is better than doing nothing, but it is best to do something different. When you make an effort to make a positive change, you will start to see that things really can change.
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