It all started out on the platform as I was waiting to catch the R train from Brooklyn to Manhattan.
I was a little late this one morning, as I've been extra busy. I recently shot a pilot for truTv and an interview for an ABC News/Hula documentary re: my thoughts on the world of online/mobile dating.
Exciting stuff, indeed, but it is time-consuming and sometimes has a girl running around like a chicken without a head. Last week-on my birthday-between meetings with clients and my social life, I don't even have time to get a manicure. (I know. I know. #ThirdWorldProblems).
So there I was, attempting to discreetly file my nails on the platform. All of a sudden, a tall, dark, and handsome, twenty-something in a Yankees jersey, approaches me, confidently winks and says "That's what a nail salon is for, babe. "
Ummm excuse me? LOL! I could only muster up a laugh and a smile for him and his cocky attitude that caught me completely off guard.
But then, as I got another glimpse of him waiting for the train and later a good look at him as he sat near me on the train with a girl that he appeared to be in a relationship with, I couldn't help but think about him.
Who does he think he is? He issss cute. I wonder what he'd be like in a relationship. Alpha male or is it all a front?
Now, this isn't a story of me exchanging numbers and then living happily ever after with the guy from the R train who is too young and inappropriate for me. I mean...do I look like Mrs. Robinson!?
Instead is a story that contains a lesson that I've learned, re-learned, and shared again and again. To put it simply, confidence is everything when it comes to creating and maintaining romantic interest.
Whether you are single or in a relationship, if you want to keep someone hooked on you, it is essential that you consistently present yourself as a partner of high value.
You have to be one of those people who knows what they bring to the table. Like..."Boy I brought this table."
If you are not happy with your love life, I can almost guarantee that it has do with a low level of self-esteem.
Whether you are dating down because you think that is what you deserve, failing to teach your partner how to treat you in a way that respects and honors your true self, or staying stuck in a relationship that eats away at your soul a little more every day, it can be traced back to a lack of confidence.
If you are shaking your head nodding "yes, yes yes"......
The real question is not: Where did this lack of confidence come from, but:
What can you do to change it?
Do you want me to help you figure it out?
In honor of my birthday, I am offering you a special gift. (Yes, I like to give on the day that I was born!)
I am offering a free fifteen minute consultation to help you recognize the ways you can be more confident in your love life! This call will strictly about you and you will hang up with some solid strategies for making over your love life.
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Oh & about that manicure? Eff it! Confidence is the sexiest thing you and I both can wear......