In today’s dating scene, for many singles, it goes something like this:
-You feel lonely after another weekend in isolation.
-Against your better judgment, you download a dating app.
-You upload a few old photos. (Because no one took half-way decent photos since the pandemic hit, right?)
-You complete a profile that explains that you like a night on the couch just as much as a night on the town.
-You swipe right on some average-looking guy who resembles Dan from Accounting or could be twins with Susan in HR.
-They write back with an uninspiring “How was your weekend?”
-You can’t decide if you could tell them how awful your weekend was without sounding mentally unstable or if you should just try to withstand the small talk.
-You write something back that is one part lame, one part inauthentic, and two parts conversational buzz kill.
-You start swiping on others.
-You rinse and repeat.
-App gets deleted in approximately 3.5 days after your patience wore out, you had an ex spotting, or received one too many unsolicited photos of male genitalia.
-Re-download app approximately 3.5 weeks later and wish you didn’t erase that whole profile you spent ten minutes creating.
It is impossible to get a competitive edge in a dating scene when you are as generic-sounding as the next single. In a sea of sameness, you have to be unique or absolutely no one will want to focus on you and what you have to offer.
If you approach online dating in the same way that everyone else is, you will likely get the same results: An epic fail. A bunch of conversations that lead nowhere. A string of dates that never turn into relationships. And frustration with it all.
Are you or someone you know dating like this?
It is a miserable existence; a competitive edge is needed.
Don’t just sit around waiting for someone to save you. Save yourself. Figure this out.
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