My Secrets: On Making It Big In Love

Ah, Love.

Although finding and keeping it can feel as mysterious as finding a unicorn, people just like you are doing it every day.

Do you ever feel like other people are luckier than you are in love? As if they have cracked a code that you'll never have access to? Like their results on Google came up differently--providing them with the knowledge and resources to actually find success in their love life?

As you probably know, I have spent almost twelve years acquiring knowledge and resources to help people navigate challenges in the romance department. Some of my "secrets" are not so-secret, others are truly revolutionary, and still others are up for debate! 

If you are interested in the debate part, you can come see me on Sept 12th in NYC, as I sit on the panel of The Great Love Debate! I'll surely be raising some eyebrows with my thoughts on why everyone is still single!

In the meantime, here’s a bit of what I've learned: Sometimes, there are no "hacks" when it comes to dating and relationships. Sometimes, you have to embark upon a long and painful journey to figuring things out the hard way. Sometimes, your friends and family don't have the answers. Sometimes,Google can't give you exactly what you are looking for in 1.5 seconds. 

By the way, speaking of seconds, if you want to make it big in love, you are going to have to know how to rebound, fast.

And by rebound, I don't mean meet a hipster-rando on Tinder who will show up at your door naked with pot brownies one day and be moving into your place the next day.......

Its more like: Dust yourself off, and try again..........

Here are three of my secrets on making it big in love:

Know the definition of settling. And don't do it.
Sure, its easier to keep calm and carry on when you don't have to face the world-with all of its tragedies like the recent one in Italy-alone. But are you truly interested in being with your partner, or is your interest based on a fear of being alone? Note: While settling is no fun, having unrealistic standards won't be a party either. Get real about who you are and who wants to date you! 

Stop thinking about what you don't have, and appreciate what you do have in love and life.
Nothing is perfect. A positive attitude is what will attract potential suitors to your like a magnet. A negative one will repel them. If you are already coupled up, your partner wants to feel like he or she can make you happy. Men always want to be appreciated and respected; women want to be valued and cherished. Act accordingly. Always. 
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Listen to your heart.
Close your eyes. What does your heart say? Do you want to be with this person you are dating or in a relationship with? There's a lot of grey area in life, but when it comes to love: It really is black or white. You either love 'em or you don't. If you do-and the relationship is complicated-will love be enough? This is where things gets dicey, so it doesn't hurt to listen to your head a bit too. But ultimately, listening to your heart will get you where you need to go.........​​​​​​​