When my male friends ask me to see Sci-Fi or Action movies, nine times out of ten, I say: NO THANK YOU!
While I totally support women who defy gender stereotypes and choose these type of films over my beloved chick flicks, they just don't do it for me.
In a lot of ways, I'm a girly girl. Like many other girly girls, I want a man who can take that masculine role and make me feel special. In fact, I believe that failing to make a woman feel special is one of the biggest mistakes that men make in their love life. For more on this, check out my insight in the recently published article, 27 Dating Experts Reveal The #1 Mistake That Men Make That Absolutely Kills Their Success With Women.
And. now, back to the movies......
When it comes to movies, drama, comedies-especially romantic comedies-and documentaries-particularly those involving psychological or social issues-are my jam! A male friend recently tried to convince me to go see Fantastic Beasts and Where To Find Them with him, and I simply could not find it in my heart of hearts to do it. Instead, I suggested that he go with others in our group of friends, and I'd meet them before for dinner. When he told me to expand my tastes because guys like these kind of movies and will want to take me, I laughed and replied that they could go with their guy friends. I sincerely meant that!
While I think that sharing common interests is important for a couple's long term happiness, I know that it is not necessary for romantic partners share all the same interests. Variety is the spice of life, and when you have different hobbies and passions, you have something unique to bring into the relationship. Conversation will be that much more interesting.
Surely a partner wanting to talk about or-God Forbid-take me to a sci-fi movie every now and then is not a deal breaker. But if he expects me to sit through something I dislike on the regular, I might have to say that I hope the door doesn't hit him on the way out. Yes, we make sacrifices for love, and I've fully appreciated all of my boyfriends past who suffered through chick flicks-including Fifty Shades of Grey-but I wouldn't regularly expect them to partake in such girly activities. I have girl friends for that. And I want my boyfriends to have guy friends to share all of those that I'd rather not do with them.
Ultimately, no one should make a habit of doing what they really don't want to do. Not only can this create resentment in a relationship, but it is bad for our soul. It is an energy drain. If we are single, we should do things that raise our frequency so that we attract someone at the same frequency. If we are coupled, we want to keep doing the activities that keep you in a positive energy.
What do you think?