That One Thing That Makes Everything Easier

If you follow me into the lounge, pull up a seat at the bar, order me a glass of dry rose, and ask me to spill my secrets on how to be happy in love and life, I'd tell you a story or two. 

If I fancied you and thought you were ready for it, I'd share the truth about that one thing that makes everything easier. That one thing with domino-effect-inspiring-potential that could transform your entire existence if you let it. 

Its kind of like dating the Mr. VIP who exposes you to new ideas and fabulous places, introduces you to everyone who is anyone, and totally sweeps you off your feet. Yes, I've dated him. And its awesome. But this is better......

This one thing is so powerful, because the power lies within YOU. It is not dependent on some guy or girl that you have to wait for to "make" your day, year, or life. 

Its been at least seven years since I stumbled upon this secret I am about to share. I was visiting some metaphysical bookstore in the East Village of NYC-hoping to get a psychic reading-when I picked up one of those holistic living type newsletters that they always have at the store's entrance. Clearly, I was looking for answers. About my love life. Obvs. 

It was ironic, because in seeking a psychic, I was attempting to control my future by knowing what was in the cards for me. Full Disclosure: I still attempt to control my future in this way from time to time--despite the stigma and the fact that most of what most of the psychics have told me has never come true.

But it is what it is. And that's kind of the point, actually.

So, the thing is........................

Everything is easier when you want what life wants!

In other words, life isn't as challenging when you accept what is happening in the present moment as something that is occurring for a reason--a reason that is ultimately good for you. 

When you stop trying to date a guy who isn't interested in you, give up on the fight to "change" her, or otherwise quit trying to fit a square peg in a round hole, you'll be a lot happier.

Seriously, you'll watch your stresses disappear. 

A blissful life isn't about having what you want, but wanting what you have.

And if you want to have that glass of rose with me.........

I'll be happy to shoot the breeze with you about love and life, at Stand Up NY, after I sit on the panel of The Great Love Debate. That's this Monday, Sept 12th at 8PM.

So how about it? Why don't we all just start wanting what life wants?