The Real "Work" of Relationships

Your parents may have told you that money does not grow on trees. But what they may have failed to mention: Great relationships don't grow on trees either.

For many of us, finding and keeping a successful relationship takes work. And sometimes a lot of it. Although we could "get lucky" in love and just fall into it-and stay in it seemingly effortlessly enough- we more than likely have to do some things to get to and stay in that happy place.

For instance, if we are single and want to date someone we have to get out of the house and go on an actual date.  Next, it'd be helpful if we take actions that will help increase the chances of a first date leading to a second. 

In other words: We can learn how to be a good date by not violating the ultimate Dating Donts- while practicing the Dating Dos- that I talk about in this video I filmed last week with matchmaker, Lisa Clampitt. 

Mostly, I believe that we should ask ourselves how we want to feel in our love life and then make the time and monetary investments that will yield the most gain.

You want to be happy in your love life? Well, you can actually plan to be happy. I have. 

Recently, I started routinely asking myself: What can I do that will give me the biggest impact on getting what I want in this important area of my life?

Sometimes, the answer is as simple as a day at the beach. Because that makes me happy, and being happy raises my vibration and ability to manifest love. Makes sense right? A little relaxation and change of scenery makes me feel more radiant, and  I therefore come across as more radiant and attract more romantic options....

Other times, for me, its about realizing I should be open to the possibilities when it comes to work, relationships, and family. Maybe it is about meeting a guy who isn't my type thinking outside the box with my dating strategy, or umm, considering a sperm donor.

One thing I want to say that applies to everyone-no matter who they are and what their relationship status is: 

Yes, we have to work out relationships, but we don't have to be be trapped in an identity within them. We can't change the culture of the entire dating scene anymore than we can change the other person in a relationship.

If you think about all of the "work" that I have just mentioned here-from learning dating/relationship etiquette to taking charge of your life by making a plan to becoming more open- the common denominator is: The WORK is, very much, on ourselves. 

Because that is the best work we can do.......