When someone in a relationship feels like his or her partner is not paying enough attention to them, there may come a day when he or she will cheat.
Because when they chat with others on Facebook, log in to an online dating site, or walk into the bar, they realize there exits a whole world of people who would love to pay them mind.
Sometimes cheaters do it for the experience of boosting their self-esteem. After all, it feels good to have someone interesting and attractive both interested and attracted to them.
Sometimes they do it for revenge on a cheating partner. (Cause two can play that game!)
Sometimes they do it because they crave the novelty of being with someone else. This breed of cheaters is often not only bored with their partner, but with life in general.
Sometimes people stray because they are genuinely in love with someone else and simply can’t stop themselves.
And sometimes, cheaters cheat because they can. For seemingly no good reason at all.
But the truth: There’s always a reason for such an indiscretion .
Men don’t just take their rings off and go out into the singles scene for no reason at all. Women don’t have emotional and sexual affairs just because they are looking to pass the time.
The difference between cheaters and non-cheaters is this: The non-cheaters are either satisfied enough with what they have at home or are not unsatisfied enough with what they have to break the contract of their relationships.
The cheaters have no regard for the promises they made. They just do what they want. Whether it is once, twice, or for ten years at a time.
Some get caught. Some don’t. Some feel guilty. Some only feel guilty because they got caught. Some cheaters feel justified. Some would understand why they feel justified—especially if they are in situations like this.
Some cheaters can be reformed. Many will cheat again and again. (Especially when they cheated with you. Because they will cheat on you, right?) Some marriages will dissolve. Others will live on—happily or unhappily.
In this day and age, there are a lot of cheaters out there, and a lot of reasons why people cheat.
What do you think is the real down and dirty truth about why people cheat? Do you think men and women cheat for different reasons? Leave your comments on the blog.
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