I hear it all the time.
Via email. Texts. Tweets. On the phone. In person.
"I'm so busy...."
"Not free until after...."
"Sorry about the delayed response...."
"Been crazy busy...."
"Hold on a minute...."
We are all "expert" multi-taskers, running around with a never-ending to-do-list, making plans, rescheduling plans, and cancelling plans, because, #AintNobodyGotTimeForThat.
I get it. I mean.... I'm not saving lives, but I've got a lot on my plate too. Lately, I've been filming videos about my current matchmaking gig, helping other matchmakers launch their business at international conferences and such, planning singles events, coaching my clients, and finding the time to share my discounted codes--just in case any single ladies are in need of sex tips from a gay man! And that's just on the business end.....
Despite all the crazy-busy-chaos, we must find a way to be in the present moment if we want to create love and connection. Every interaction with a (potential) partner will result in either connection or disconnection based on your ability to focus on the here and now. You can push people toward you or away from you. The choice is yours.
Since I am guessing you'd like to push love toward you, I'll take the liberty of sharing a secret that that will help the cause. To stay in the present, you need to make peace with the past. As I've recently learned, getting to a cool and neutral place with an ex (somewhere between I hate-ya-you-stunad and I'm-still-hoping-we-can-make-babies) can be very rewarding.
Simply clearing the air to get past frustration, anger, sadness, and/or hope for reconcilation can put you on the path toward a relationship with someone who is more suitable for you. Or just contribute to your own sanity...
Letting go of anxiety about what your love life will look like in the future will actually help it look much better. Its been said before, and its worth saying again.......
This moment is all we've got!