So I got a text from my ex the other day.
He saw something on TV that reminded him of me. It was about the show Married at First Sight and the couples who got divorced and now have fans wanting to date them.
He remembered when-right before we started dating-FYI network was considering me to be on the show.
"If you got married at first sight, would you be divorced now?" he asked.
"Nope. I'd still be married....." I quickly replied.
I went on to give him my most personal thoughts on divorce.
Just in case he's still considering me for marriage. #ToBeContinued
" I am old-school, you know. I can make it work. Divorce is one of those things that I think is fine for other people, but whoever I marry is going to be stuck with me forevs."
Take note, Baby Cakes!
"I believe you," he said.
In this moment, I do too! I truly believe that my future husband and I will be married "til death do us part". Granted, I have never been married, but I do have lots of experience witnessing the challenges others who are married struggle with. And, well, a master's degree in Marriage & Family Therapy.
I know myself. I know my strengths and weaknesses for working on some of those challenges, I know my views on the spiritual purpose of marriage. I know that unless there was abuse or some extremely- extreme difficulty, I will probably stay married forever. In fact, the idea of forever is the whole point to me. It is what makes the institution so appealing to me in the first place. When divorce is not an option, you either work things out or stay miserable.
I don't know about you, but misery never looked good on me.....
Now I want to clarify, I don't think my view is for everyone. I don't think I am better or worse than anyone for having this view. There are plenty of people who are probably better off getting divorced. Marriage isn't for everyone!
So what are my professional opinions on divorce and what to do if it all comes crashing down?
Well, I'll be on TV, today, Thursday, December 15th at 3:00PM on the Brooklyn Savvy show on NYClife Network - Cablevision Ch 22 - Comcast Ch 25 - Over the air 25.1 - RCN 25 - Time Warner Cable 25/10 - Verizon Fios 25- on a panel about divorce. Check it out if you can. If not stay tuned for when it will air online.
In the meantime, please know that I am no stranger to dishing out my thoughts about divorce or dating after divorce. You can view a past Brooklyn Savvy episode where I spoke about the effect of divorce on children.
You can also shoot me an email at Rachel@RachelRusso,com with your thoughts on marriage, divorce, or Donald Trump.
Just kidding about Donald Trump.
Let's keep it real!