We Desperately Need To Figure Out How To Do This

So, I went on a date with a fifty-year old-a few months ago. At age 32.

After that, I had a dinner date with a twenty-seven year old. And, after that, an iron worker.

Yes, really! The things we do to find love......

While all of these men were considerably out of my comfort zone in terms of match criteria, I went on each date with an open mind. 

I know that being overly judgmental about superficial criteria has left many a woman (and man!)
unattached for longer than preferred. 

Yeah, I don't know about you, but I'm not trying to become another NYC single statistic! 

The struggle is real, and as I've mentioned before: A lot of times it has to do with location, location, location.

This week, a podcast interview  I did with well-renowned dating coach, Scot McKay, which has been called "entertaining and informative" debuted on Itunes. Our conversation on Episode 94, is all about major differences in dating among singles in cities, rural areas, and suburbia. 

It seems like everyone thinks their city or town is the worst place to date. Some are far worse than others. Jon Birger, author of Date-o-nomics, who I will be sitting on a panel with at my next Great Love Debate appearance on October 17th may be the one who knows this best!​​​​​​​

But, also: "Wherever you go, there you are." 

With that, a lesson comes to mind. A lesson that you need to learn whether you are single, dating, or married. And that is......

If you want your love life to be a good one, do this........

Be OPEN!!!

You have to keep an open mind and stop thinking that you already have the "script" for how things should go with those in your love life. While its true that you can write your own love story, you can not control how other people act or how they treat you.

Sometimes, you can't control who you fall in love with. That's why they call it "falling" in love.

You may swear up and down that you like older men and would never date anyone in his 30s, and then randomly stumble into a Cubs & Cougars party-like this one my colleague, Mary Riley, is hosting-and walk out hand-in-hand-with the love of your life!

Sometimes, you can't control who you stay in love with either. 

Just ask #Brangelina!