If you are reading this blog post, there is a real chance you are wasting your time.
If you are like most Americans, you are probably spending too much time on your mobile device. (And if you track your screen time, the result might induce nausea!) Perhaps, you are spending too much time texting. Checking social media. Watching bad reality tv. And, maybe, just maybe: You are wasting too much time in your love life.
Judging by the fact that my post above is doing better than ninety-five percent of my recent posts on Instagram, I'd say that if you are guilty of the latter, you are in good company.
But, no, no, no. There isn't anything good about this.
Time is our most precious resource, and if you are waiting on any person to move things forward in your relationship, you are wasting yours. Now, I am not talking about a "normal" wait time. It is perfectly reasonable for someone to build up the courage to ask you out or take a minute before making major life decisions like marriage and babies. However, if you have waited beyond a reasonable time for someone to show genuine interest or make a commitment, you'll know it.
And if you don't know it, you should book a strategy session with me, because I can tell you in sixty minutes or less if you are wasting your time!
There comes a point where you need to ask yourself: Why are you wasting your time? Why are hoping and waiting when the writing is on the wall?
If they wanted to text you back, they would.
If they wanted to ask you out, they would ask.
If they wanted to make it official: You’d know it!
If they wanted to introduce you to their parents, you wouldn’t have to ask.
If they wanted to marry you, you’d be engaged, with a wedding date.
If they wanted to have your child, they’d want to have the conversation.
Facts: When you are in the right relationship, things progress. You aren’t constantly questioning everything. Your partner-nor your dynamic-is always easy or perfect, but you aren’t forever waiting to get to the next step. It isn’t a huge struggle, all the time.
If you aren't making progress in relationships, you are probably making….excuses. And nobody has time for that!