Why Doing The Unexpected Gets You Further In Love

As Pharrell Williams says: The same is lame! I truly believe that doing something a bit outside of the box will get you further in your love life--no matter what your status.

Knowing this, it should be no surprise that I'm not the biggest fan of a first date that is prompted by a text that reads: "Let's meet for a drink."

Yup. These days a guy who does something as simple as picking up the phone to ask a woman out is pretty much a revolutionary!  If you are a guy who likes to go against the grain, don't stop there. I say ask her out for breakfast, lunch, or dinner! Ladies, say "yes" to someone who is creative and wants to do something special for you. 

As I explain in my most recent print interview which was called  "inspiring, eye-opening and fun" by New York Dating Life, brunch on a Sunday is pretty much my idea of the perfect date. 

I mean...wouldn't you like to know about the kind of choices your potential mate makes?

Like:
Bloody Mary or Mimosa?
Ketchup on the eggs or no eggs at all?
Workout at the gym or Netflix on the couch afterward?

In all seriousness, brunch is great for all the reasons I described here and more.

Bonus: You'll see your date sober-ish + in the daylight. This will lead to a better glimpse into what your #weekendlife as a couple would be like and, well, if you actually like each other!

For those already in relationships, maybe you doubt you can do the unexpected since your partner has a clear idea of what to expect from you most of the time. Well, on one hand, it is totally awesome that you are consistent. That is the comfort and the beauty of being in a healthy relationship. You've got "gifts" or value that you've been giving to your partner on a regular basis, and he/she hearts you for that! 

As per Thomas Edwards, who spoke at The Elite Man Conference last weekend--along with some other fabulous speakers and yours truly: You can always be aware of your value and share it with others. If you are like Thomas, for instance, your value would be that you always bring fun --no matter what, no mater with whom, no matter when, no matter where. So say your partner expects you to be "the fun one": You can certainly change how you deliver that fun. It is always ideal to have different gifts, traits, and skills to add to your usual brand of fun. Sharing new experiences together just strengthens the bond and leads to more relationship satisfaction.

So, what do you say? Why not do the unexpected?