Many of us are wondering what is up with single men in America. With just about eighty days until Election Day…… There are a lot of Americans who have realized and continue to realize that many systems in the United States are broken. While I won’t get into a political debate, I am here to say: Yes. They are. And guess what else is broken? Dating. More specifically, dating to find a compatible partner for a successful relationship or marriage. You might disagree, but there are many single people around the country who are finding this to be their experience. Some I know wholeheartedly believe there is a masculinity crisis that is spilling over into the dating space and further contributing to dating being much more complicated than it was for previous generations. They are not wrong. There are great men out there who would make great partners but need to catch up in the dating game and get their chance at having the relationship, marriage, and/or family they desire. I have been seeing it for almost two decades as a matchmaker and dating coach, but it feels like it is worse than ever. Many of these men succeed professionally but suffer in their personal lives. Ain’t Kamala, Trump, or RFK going to save them! Do I have a solution? Perhaps, for some of these guys…… I have wanted to host a men’s seminar for a while, and I am doing it now. This is timely. It is happening in the NYC tri-state area this September 8th—in Nyack, NY at Main Street Coworking. I asked my friend, Jared Sais, a well-recognized Nonverbal Communication Expert, to be my cohost. We even made postcards that look like this.................... Throughout the years that I have known Jared, he has worked some magic with single men in the NYC area who weren’t attracting the type of women they most desired.
I knew that Jared was the perfect person to bring on board, as I was looking for someone to complement my experience as a female matchmaker and dating coach. The He Said/She Said format has truly proven to be quite valuable in my work in the love industry. It’s so fun to share our perspectives and do a Q&A where men get to hear from both a man and a woman who “get it". Collectively, Jared and I have helped so many guys level up in dating and fully embrace their authentic power in love and life. This is what I think single American men need more of right now! If you are a single man reading this and it piques your interest, please join us. (I promise it will be worth your while!) To sign up, you can use the QR code in the flyer or register on Eventbrite—where there is more information about the agenda. (There is a bonus after-event with Jared, too!) We have spots for just fifteen single guys at Main Street Coworking, so do get on this now if you are looking to transform your confidence, dating, and relationships. Feel free to message me at [email protected] with any questions. If you may know a guy-a son, a nephew, a friend, a colleague, a neighbor, even an ex-boyfriend-who may like to attend this special event, feel free pass this on. If they learn something and apply it in their love life, you will be helping men, women, children, and America! (Seriously, though.) Thanks for your consideration, and I hope you will help support me in making this a successful event for all!
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💕A Personal Note From Rachel Russo, Founder of Rachel Russo Relationships, LLC
Dear Reader, Whether you just stumbled upon this website or have been a fan of Rachel Russo Relationships for a long time: Welcome to the blog portion of the site! It is where I-Rachel Russo, matchmaker and dating coach with nearly twenty years of experience-have been regularly sharing dating related insights for many years up until the last year when things got a little bit more...sporadic. There is a valid explanation for this, and I just wanted to apologize and explain the lack of content here. It really boils down to three words: SOLO MOM LIFE. As you may know, I became a solo mom by choice during the global pandemic and conceived a baby girl-who is now 2.5-in December of 2021. I have been sharing my challenging yet joyful journey into motherhood, a glimpse of our life, and posting some updates in regard to what is happening with my matchmaking consultancy on my Instagram account below: https://www.instagram.com/rachel.russo/. I have also managed to keep up with regular posts on Facebook and LinkedIn and land podcasts, several amazing new matchmaking clients, consulting work, and even my very first Emcee Gig at The Global Love Institute's Annual Matchmaker and Dating Coach Conference of 2024! But this blog has been under construction-as I am in the midst of some rebranding-and had many life events--including another very important gig as Maid of Honor in my sister's wedding and an upcoming move to somewhere very special that you'll hear more about soon! There have been SO many exciting things going on personally and professionally, so stay tuned for big changes-and more frequent blog posts soon-right here. And for now, I just wanted to share some exciting news: While I am committed to helping all types of people find and keep romantic relationships, I have developed a bit of a niche coaching single parents looking to find love. And I have been talking about it in media. In fact, my recent interview on the Wake Up With Marci show is airing this weekend! I recently filmed a segment on dating tips for single parents looking for . You can tune in: Saturday at 10 AM EST on WLNY-TV 10/55 in the NYC TriState Area Sunday at 5:30 AM PST on CBS Local 2 (KPSP-TV2) in Santa Barbara & Palm Springs, CA Sunday at 6 AM MDT on ABC MIFI-TV in Idaho Falls, Idaho, and Jackson Hole, Wyoming. Nationwide viewers can watch on Hulu Live, YouTube Live, FuboTV, and locally on ONNJ. For more details, visit www.wakeupwithmarci.com Thank you so much for your understanding and support! Looking forward to being in touch soon. XoXo, Rachel Happy Thursday! It has been a while since I have written with an update. To say that there has been a lot going on lately with Rachel Russo Relationships-and in my personal life-would be an understatement!
One significant happening that you may have missed-or might like to learn more about- is that I did “a thing” on my social media platforms last week at this time. I shared what occurred after I took a bold stand on refusing to do matchmaking for male senior citizens who want to date women twenty+ years younger. (Yes, I was admittedly a bit disturbed by an influx of men in their seventies asking to date women in their thirties and forties!) I had publicly announced that at my boutique matchmaking business, I will no longer work with men who devalue women as they age. I was then invited on the Dates & Mates podcast-hosted by the well-known relationship expert, Damona Hoffman-to talk about ageism in the current dating culture, and it was a great experience! You can check out my episode here. And since then some more magic has taken place…. On the business side, I attracted two new (awesome!) male clients for dating coaching, and they are open to dating age-appropriate women. Several men and women reshared my posts on LinkedIn and Facebook, and several others reached out to compliment me on being authentic and inspiring. There has also been a considerable increase in attractive, professional women of all ages applying to my database for complimentary introductions to my male clients. If you are single (male or female) and would like me to keep you in mind for introductions, you can do so here. Personally, I said goodbye to my thirties and celebrated turning forty on October 8th. I laughed at the contrast between my thirtieth birthday celebration-which included popping bottles and dancing on tables in the meatpacking district of New York City-and my fortieth birthday celebration. For the latter, I found myself ringing in the new decade with my new mom friends and our little toddlers—enjoying strawberry pancakes, in our pajamas at the cute house we rented in the middle of a Pennsylvania forest! And of course, there was a family dinner. On this Throwback Thursday, I have reflected on the past and realized that the version of me in the photo above (age 33, celebrating my birthday in Italy on this day) lacked the insight, wisdom, confidence, and bravery to draw my line in the sand in this very public way. (Proof that we ladies only get better with age!) What do I hope you’ll take away from all of this? That you need no one’s permission to follow your heart. That you should just do what you want, stand up for what you think is right, and watch the good things that will follow. I also wanted to mention that in addition to my reminiscing about Italy, another country I have been thinking of this week is, of course, Israel. My thoughts and prayers are with those in Israel and within the Jewish community who have suffered from the impact of these recent, tragic acts of terrorism. With so much darkness in the world, I am committed to bringing love and light to humanity, and I have been exploring new channels for recruiting high-caliber singles for my relationship-oriented clients. I am now searching for a man who wants to find an (age-appropriate!) woman he loves more than….pizza! In the greater NYC tri state area, to be exact. (I know. I know. Just trying to lighten the mood….) I am hoping to find a handsome and successful Italian American-or at least Italian American looking- gentleman, as my beautiful and accomplished fifty-five year old female client just loves that type! I think mid-fifties to a youthful early sixties would be perfect—though she’d happily date a little younger for the right guy! Have you “got a guy”? Are you this guy? Please email [email protected] to learn more about the opportunity for a complimentary introduction to my incredible bachelorette. Feel free to let me know what you think regarding ageism in today’s dating culture, how we could all just get along while doing what we want, what you’d like to take a stand on, or, umm, whatever your heart desires! Welcome to the unofficial start of summer! With the busyness of the BBQs, weekend getaways, and town parades, let’s take a moment to remember what Memorial Day is all about: An opportunity to honor the brave men and women who have sacrificed so much for the nation many of us call home !
The holiday weekend is an ideal time to express your gratitude for all who have helped create and maintain the freedoms we enjoy in the United States today. Don’t forget that practicing gratitude primes you for a rewarding love life, too! It is scientifically proven to make you happier, and we all like to be around people with a more cheerful disposition. Other ways to produce a happy mood and relational bliss this summer?Have FUN! Do the thing you always wanted to do. Try the hobby you wanted to pursue. Take the trip you have been dreaming of going on for years. I recently shared my top tips for single mothers in a local paper for this past Mother’s Day, but for Memorial Day, that’s all I’ve got! Never underestimate the power of good, old fashioned fun. Everything is lighter in the summer. Maybe the light-hearted version of you is just what you need to attract or reconnect with the love of your life! If you want to take advantage of Memorial Day savings with Rachel Russo Relationships, please email [email protected] before June 1rst for half-price matchmaking, dating, and relationship strategy sessions. Many young women feel the pressure “to settle down”. Whether the story they imagine unfolding in early adulthood includes a white picket fence or the penthouse, it usually involves a man, a ring, and a child or two—or more. You know, The Fairytale.
But what happens when things change course, and it doesn’t seem like the dream of becoming a mom is anywhere in sight? In other words, what do modern single women do when they are getting past the age where having biological babies is feasible? More and more are freezing their eggs—which can be a great thing to do, but it is certainly no insurance. Of course, many turn to online dating apps and get into matchmakers’ databases in hopes of meeting an eligible bachelor before the clock stops ticking. I know this, because I am seeing many women apply to my own complimentary database at my boutique relationship consultancy, Rachel Russo Relationships, every day—and more so, lately, during “Love Month”. Younger women wanting kids. Older women wanting kids. There are a lot of women really trying to meet that man who is on the same page about wanting a family, yesterday. I feel for those women. I was one of those women—until I wasn’t. Until I decided to take an alternate route. For some brave ladies, there is a new way to find your person—and it is after you have had your baby! As you may know, I took this road less travelled and have lived to write about it. Last month, a journalist from Yahoo Life reached out to interview me for her piece regarding dating for solo moms by choice. I was happy to see this article with my insights-and those of other solo moms-came out this week, on Valentine's Day. Everything written here --totally relatable to me! Its so awesome to have a community of other like-minded women who have decided to make this unique-and increasingly more popular-lifestyle choice. A lot of people have been referring me friends who are in the thinking stage. Some have even reached out on social media and hired me for consults. I am so open to connect with any woman who is contemplating this rewarding and challenging path of having a baby on her own—and worrying what dating looks like after. Personally, I am fully enjoying my little one, throwing myself into my work, and focusing on my own dating (a little!) later in the game. As for getting to be a woman who is defying society’s expectations-well that’s just the icing on the cake and the result of fighting for my own fairytale! In honor of Valentine’s Day, I thought I’d share some things I have learned about love:
Got that new moon energy…..new moon in Aquarius came in at 3:55PM EST—just as I had the intuitive nudge to put out a new and inspiring message for all those looking for a shot of hope for their love life!
I’ll be honest: My 2023 did not start off as magically as I would have preferred. In fact, I was so temporarily out of character I didn’t even make an official New Year’s resolution. Or update my blog and newsletter! Well, onwards and upwards, I’m feeling this new moon energy is going to be transformative for my business in the love industry! I’m feeling confident that I am going to be able to help every single person that comes my way -in some way-for this entire year. That is my intention—to be of service to all who are drawn to working with me in a matchmaking or dating & relationship coaching context. And to learn the lessons that powerful work gives back to me. I believe those who will be drawn to me will be drawn to me for a reason. I will have something incredibly valuable to offer them. 🙏🏻 Yes! I know it. This new moon is going to help me manifest it. Too “woo-woo” for you?! Whether you believe in the power of the new moon or not, it can bring transformation to many areas of your life—including dating and relationships. My top tip: Set the intention for your love life within the next twenty-four hours. Write it down, and you’ll increase the chances of bringing it to fruition. Oh, and, if you are single and feeling spontaneous? Go on an impromptu first date. At the very least, fill out a profile in my confidential database. I may have a match for you! The new moon is an ideal time to plant the seed for a new relationship. So start planting. Happy New Moon! ❤️ Originally published in the November edition of Our Town Magazine
Do you ever notice that people start putting things off until the new year—right about now? They may squeeze in doctor appointments in hope of meeting deductibles, but business projects, diets, home renovations, etc., they all begin in 2023. There’s also a slowdown-but definitely not a lockdown -when it comes to how people do dating, relationships, and marriage during the holiday season. Sure it is engagement season (no pressure!) and no one likes to be alone during the holidays, but it is also an awkward, anxiety-provoking time that makes some singles, well, just want to stay single. For the newly dating, the vibe can be high pressure. Should I buy her a present ? How much do I spend without looking cheap or overly interested? What do I wear to the family dinner? Do I really have to go to this only after a month of dating? Will we spend New Year’s Eve together? I think its pretty easy to understand why some put dating apps on hold, and others run back into the arms of their ex. The devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know, right?! Highly debatable, but I digress…. In the matchmaking world, many clients assume everyone is traveling, so we sign contracts for membership now and start fresh in the new year. For some of the “married folk”—including those who were lucky enough to meet organically or in an AOL chat room twenty-three years ago: The holidays aren’t a walk in the park either. Let’s just say you wouldn’t be the first person to dread attending your spouse’s annual company Christmas party. Wait, am I allowed to say Christmas party? Then there are fights over the finances, the gift-giving, the division of labor, and which family you are spending which holiday with which year. For couples on the brink of a breakup or divorce, it is really not the most wonderful time of year. Some of you may choose to procrastinate cutting ties with a partner, because you think it is kinder thing to do. While your desire to avoid ruining a holiday is noble, there is no good time to end a relationship—especially when the other party doesn’t welcome its’ dissolution. Considering the way the holiday season slowdown impacts people-no matter what their marital status-chances are something I’ve shared resonates with you. If you are wondering what to do, I say: Do what you want during the holidays—and always. Our love lives aren’t always rainbows and butterflies; cobwebs and nasty bugs can creep in at anytime. Relationship don’t permanently change just because the calendar says it is time to drink eggnog with Aunt Gertrude—in your ugly Christmas sweater. But they could change if you actually commit to your New Year’s resolution. Life is short, so seize the day. And, you, know, have the happiest of holidays! Ever have the experience of being burnt out in your love life? Overwhelmed and unenthused doesn’t just apply in the workplace— but in dating and relationships too.
I should know. I have been a matchmaker and dating and relationship coach in the NYC tri-state area for the past seventeen years. I have seen countless singles and couples dispirited when it comes to dealing with modern day matters of the heart. Couples feeling underappreciated by their partner and stuck in the same old rut—on that hamster wheel that comes with balancing family and career. They find themselves going to the same restaurants, having the same fights, and being disconnected from the reasons why they fell in love in the first place. As for the singles—it is so much about dating app fatigue! There are so many singles who are stagnant, because they can’t seem to find a meaningful connection--despite all of the options online. They secretly feel like they aren’t good enough, that they are doing something wrong that is leading to being ghosted, put in the friend zone, or taken on a rollercoaster that never leads to a serious commitment. The struggle is real! It exits, because most people don’t stop to think about prioritizing happiness in their love life. They’ve stopped scheduling date nights with their spouse. They’ve gotten into relationships by default. They are making decisions that fail to align with their core values. Or they aren’t making decisions at all! They think the right person will come along when they least expect it or that the grass is green somewhere else. They think: When its right, things aren’t supposed to be so difficult, are they? Wrong! Perhaps, it is time for some reflection, because from societal pressures to the cost of living, to the mental health issues that people are facing from the city to the suburbs, it isn’t so black and white. Your level of happiness-or lack thereof-directly impacts your ability to find and keep a healthy relationship. Sometimes love isn't enough. Its hard to stay motivated to make the changes you need to so you can have a successful relationship when you are struggling to pay the mortgage, lose the weight, raise the kids, and keep up with your overbooked schedule. I find that most are so caught up in their lives that they don’t make time for love. And, as one of my good friends always said, “If you don’t make time for love, love doesn’t make time for you.” Could doing less in your daily life actually bring you more? Would slowing down and being present make you more “matchable” or a better match for the one you are with? Could you say “no” to the things that don’t light you up and find more joy in romance? Maybe, it is time to let the house be a little messier and your inbox be a little fuller. To stop and think about what you really want in love and life. In honor of the recent National Daughter's Day, I'd like to share not just a photo of my sweet little girl-who I say was born with glitter in her veins- but a bit of hope for all of our daughters today.
The world is changing for women, indeed, and as I referenced in a previous blog—some of the changes aren't so positive. But they aren't all bad..... In recent years-since the start of the pandemic-the dating landscape has been transformed. Aside from the obvious trends-including an increase in online dating use and the normalization of “video dates”- there has been a change in the matchmaking industry. Beautiful, well-educated, working women-moms, ex-wives, and those who never married-are hiring professional matchmakers in record numbers. As a relationship expert with seventeen years of matchmaking and dating coaching experience, I-along with many of my matchmaking colleagues- are finding more women than men are wanting to invest in matchmaking to find “their person”. Besides running my boutique matchmaking company, Rachel Russo Relationships, I teach a course that I co-developed with the Global Love Institute. It is an online class for entrepreneurs to start up matchmaking businesses that I've taught weekly for over half a decade. Since the pandemic, more of my students are working with female clientele. I've seen colleagues searching for female clients in the private matchmaking industry groups I belong to as well. And, for the first time, I am personally matching an equal number of single men and women. I was recently asked what I think of this current trend? My response: It is music to my ears! As a new solo mom by choice- I conceived my adorable baby girl via IVF with donor sperm- I am proud to see that the future of matchmaking, is, in part, female. I enjoy working with strong women who have the courage to be proactive in their love life–matching them with strong men who value and respect them. As I told Westchester Jewish Life, in a recent article, “It is healthy for both men and women when women don’t conform to rigid gender roles. " Every woman doesn’t want to sit in a matchmaker’s database and wait to be chosen. It is 2022; if she wants to, she can do the choosing.” |
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