There's a dirty little question that comes to mind for a lot of people after they read a sentence that includes the words "love" and "money".
Can you truly have BOTH?
Yes, I wholeheartedly believe that some of us can!
I'm also of the belief that black hair and rose gold highlights can peacefully coexist. And, so, yesterday- instead of promptly writing this post-I did this.
Sorry. I am getting better about delivering your content in a timely fashion. I promise. It's just that this was kind of urgent.....
Valentine's Day is right around the corner! I even started doing my telesummit video for the latest Global Love Sumit that I am a part of. If you are looking for love, definitely consider registering here. Speaking of money, it won't cost you a thing, if you are one of the first one hundred to register. So, get on that.
Now, for the good stuff.,,,,
Do you want to make both love and money?
Look, you are going to have to WORK at finding and keeping love or money. This is non-negotiable. It is about your mindset and your behavior. Talk to people who have made it, and they will tell you it is not mostly about luck. It is not about get-rich-quick-schemes or finding-love-in-ninety-days-bs. While it may look like many successful people have had luck, chances are, there was a lot of blood, sweat, and tears going on behind the scenes.
But, its also not always about making tremendous sacrifices either. Yes, you are going to have to give up something to get both love and money. Like time spent partying, for instance, as you will be working. You will likely have to give up dating multiple people if you want to win the heart of one special one.
But you could work smarter and not harder. You don't need be doing slave labor--making rich people richer, right? When it comes to love, you will likely not get every single thing on your wish list. And, if you do, there will be some other undesirable trait that comes with the package. No one is perfect.
However, you don't have to marry someone who will have you "earning every penny" or settle for a partner who has you less stimulated than you would be watching paint dry on a wall. How fun would making love be in that case?!
There are other options. There is an in-between.
I am not here to tell you to dig for gold, to sign that prenup, or to build your own empire and never let anyone touch it. Nor am I here to suggest that you'd be better off with someone funny, or fit or whatever else is on your wish list. Because I don't know your own unique psychology and true desires at this point.
I can only give you specific, personalized, life-changing advice when I get to you know you better. If you are in the market for a coach or matchmaker, and you want me to tell you exactly who I think IS and ISN'T for you, that may be possible. You can start by booking me for a complimentary consultation so that we can explore the possibilities...
What I would like to tell you today is that I might have opportunities to help you make love and money!
First off, I am HIRING! If you want to be a Love Agent for my matchmaking & dating + relationship consultancy, Rachel Russo Relationships, check out my job post and learn about how you can get paid for referring your friends, family, colleagues, and other singles.
Secondly, if you want to increase your chances of making some serious cash in the matchmaking industry, I invite you to come to learn how to become a real mover and shaker in the industry by joining me at Matchmaking Institute's next Global Love Conference, March 6-8, 2019 in NYC! FYI: The early bird special is still being honored! And this conference is SO worth it.
Now, back to this LOVE thing....
As I posted on Insta today: The heart wants what the heart wants.
But, if you heart wants THIS, it is time to start using your head.
Want tips for getting started?
Have a listen to my interview on the He Said What Podcast, Episode 92 Dates in 1 Year with Rachel Russo. Yup, I really did once go on ninety-two dates in one year and blog about them--though I keep my love life much, much, more private these days! Listen to what I have to say about that--plus more on first dates, people who ghost, not dating based on potential, spotting the red flags, and all you need to know about modern-day relationships there.
Meantime, if you have any additional thoughts on making love and money, shoot me an email at Rachel@RachelRusso.com. I'm looking for people and ideas to help me make more of BOTH!
Whether you are single or in a relationship, you aren't going to just magically improve your love life because you want to.
Just because you have a vision board, just because you have prayed, or just because you know your deserve more than this.....
Things don't change unless you are sick and tired of how they are.
You don't stop being single until you are so over being single that you finally do something that will make a difference.
If your relationship is broken, things won't improve just because you'd like them to. Unless both you AND your partner are fully committed to change, you are just going to get more of that same unsatisfying dynamic. PS: If you aren't willing to WORK at a relationship, stay single.
Confession: I learned the latter the hard way, and more than once too! Sometimes, it takes a while for things to sink in, and as they say: The lesson repeats until you learn it. When it comes to trying to work on a broken relationship, giving an ex a second chance, etc., it is crucial to make sure that you aren't fooling yourself.
Are you more invested in the relationship than your partner is? Are you doing all the work? Do you want it to work more than he or she does?
No matter how "in" you are, it the other person has a foot out the door, the relationship has a shelf life. If you are the one with your foot out, kindly let the other person go. Don't hold on for selfish reasons-out of comfort, loneliness, etc-when you know a relationship is wrong for you. The relationship will not be right for either of you unless you both have a strong desire to change.
You must also both have the ability to work through your issues. Is it realistic that things could change enough for you to both be happy? Ideally, you'd have evidence that change is possible before you waste one more second in brokenness. There is always a risk in love, but, in my experience, giving even a fractured relationship another go on a "chicken wing and a prayer" is a risky, risky business. Protect your heart and invest wisely, my friends!
But, if all else fails, and your heart gets broken.......Don't worry, life will go on.
I am saddened by all the people who give up on love after a bad breakup, abuse, divorce, addiction, or any other trauma. And I get it. It is hard to move on. However, I truly believe it IS possible to heal your heart and get over even the worst things you can imagine! This is why I'm so excited to support Jacinth Headlam, award-winning actress and motivational speaker, with her new book, Love After.
Next month, I will be participating in her NYC Book Launch Event! I will be making a special guest appearance, giving a brief talk, and selling copies of my own book, How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style, at her launch party in Brooklyn, on Feb 9th. For more info & tix, go here.
To stop fooling yourself and get real about transforming your love life, book a complimentary coaching consultation with me today!
Love. Everyone wants it. But not everyone has it. Is there a code to live by that could bring more love into your life? If only you could crack it....
While there's no universal recipe for attracting or keeping love, adopting a healthy lifestyle can help you create healthier relationships. In general, a healthy lifestyle will have you feeling more in control of your every day. "Healthy" isn't just about reducing sugar or doing cardio thirty minutes per day--though it is worthwhile for most of us to consider doing these things!
Healthy is a state of mind. How do you get there? There are a lot of ways. My own personal code is ever evolving. Here are a few pieces to it that work for me. If you give them a try-for thirty days or more-I think they will work for you too!
Have an AM routine, so that you can win the day! Think of your priorities first before you start answering all of the emails and worrying about what everyone else wants from you. Note: If you are single, checking three dating apps before you even get out of bed probably won't put you in a positive, productive mindset. What do you need to do today? Focus on you.
Always choose to act with love and kindness. I'm sorry, but you can't attract a happy relationship if you are the kind of person who is mean to waiters! Use your love muscle regularly--not just when you come across your (potential) love interest. If you don't use it, you will lose it. You can't control the circumstances around you, but you can always treat others with respect. #SpreadTheLove
Don't settle for less. In other words, be conscious of how you are teaching people to treat you. If you accept bad behavior again and again, the bad behavior will continue. Love yourself more by removing toxic people from your life, and a healthier romantic love will follow.
What do you think of my basic code? Tell me about the code you live by. Has it brought more love into your life?
It is the first Sunday of 2019, and as we start the first full week of the new year, I want to encourage you to SEIZE THE DAY!
If you are single, TODAY is the best day to get on a dating app and increase your chances of finding a compatible partner. I know this is true, because NJ 12 News and my mom told me. While today is particularly a powerhouse of a day for singles on dating apps, Sundays, in general, are the best days of the week to swipe. As you can imagine, most bad dates take place over the weekend......
Want to never go on a bad date or have a bad relationship again? Okay, this may seem too lofty of a goal, but you can do it. You really can, and I'd love to help you achieve your dating and relationship goals! Because that's pretty much all I do......
After ringing in the New Year-with noise blowers + the electric slide included- and easing into the first few days, I wanted to share: I am still committed to helping you Live your BEST (Love!) Life in 2019, and I am feeling positive about the new year for you, I, and everyone.
In fact, one of my resolutions is to create and deliver great dating and relationship content to your inbox EVERY Thursday by 11AM EST. So, subscribe to my newsletter on my homepage look out for my newsletter every week and please consider taking my advice. It can be life-changing, for sure!
Until then, you can follow me on social media for more tips. Icons linking to every one of my social media profiles is on the homepage as well.
And, if you really want to start your year off right, you can sign up for a free Sex & Love Virtual Summit, that I will be participating in from February 12-14th with LUV TALK! Save the date and click the link here to register!
Once again, Happy New Year, Happy Sunday, and Carpe Diem!
So, that's an image of me, today, and it marks my last social media post of 2018. I decided its time for a little detox from social media and email--just until after the first of the year. Trust me, I got this....
Back in 2017, I was given a scholarship for a week-long healing retreat, that turned out to be quite the experience! Part of the deal: For seven days, there was no contact with the outside world. No Books. TV. Music. Calls. Emails. Texts. Or Social Media. Because the goal was to look within and experience the present with a bunch of strangers who became friends....
In case you are wondering, it was amazing!
I did the retreat mid-year, but in retrospect, the end of a year is the perfect time to do a retreat or detox of some kind. Its the ideal opportunity to get quiet, to reflect on your goals for the new year, and to, you know, disappear.
By disappear, I don't mean GHOSTING people! Because as I recently shared, that is one dating trend that I'd love for us to get rid of in 2019.
Actually, I have a lot to say about ghosting, and I just finished off the work year by doing a fun interview on an important topic with my friend & colleague, Mike Goldstein. Before I peaced out on 2018, I wanted to take a moment to share this with you. Check out "Why Do Men That Claim They Want Commitment Disappear?" on YouTube. Clearly, this one is for the ladies, but we go deep into the topic and the gender differences, and I believe men can benefit from listening too!
Speaking of which...
Ladies, if you're looking to find a quality man (who would never ghost you) in the new year, please don't hesitate to apply to my confidential database for introductions to amazing men--at no cost to you!
Gentleman, I will be taking on new matchmaking clients in 2019, so I invite you to contact me if you are interested in having an experienced matchmaker find compatible ladies for you!
Of course, I coach both men, women, and sometimes work with couples too, so I invite you all to schedule a complimentary consultation if you are in the market for a dating or relationship coach.
Also, the social media detox. Give it a try now. You'll thank me later.
Ever since I was a little girl, I always liked to ask people questions. Some things never change, as I continue to ask away in both my professional and personal life.
Note: I think The 36 Questions are totally fair game for Date #1!
Today, I have five questions for you--questions that could reveal really meaningful answers. The ones that could truly make a difference in your love life--no matter what your status.
Last week I urged you to do these two things for your love life before Jan 1, so I figured I might as well help your cause.
If you are serious about getting what you want in the romance department, grab a pen and paper and write down your responses to the following:
1. How do you want your love life to look going forward in 2019 and beyond? Bonus points if you can envision it all with clear detail!
2. What are your deal breakers and boundaries for your relationship or relationship-to-be? You do have some non-negotiables, right?
3. Are you satisfied with your life overall; if not, what isn't working for you? How can you change it? The not-so-secret-secret: If you are otherwise ******* miserable, a relationship alone won't change that.
4. Do you have unresolved emotional issues from past relationships? Nothing can sabotage like an attachment to an ex.....
5. Do you have decent relationship skills? The bar is set pretty low these days, so if you know how to communicate with more than a smartphone, resolve conflict, and generally function in partnership, you are ahead of the game.
So what did the five questions say about you?
If you learned something that you'd like to discuss in a coaching context, don't hesitate to book a complimentary consultation today.
Yup. It's just about the end of the year.
While many businesses are slowing down-as people are drinking spiked Eggnog wearing ugly sweaters while pretending to be working- there's time to ponder love and life. Sure, things can also be hectic this time of year, but there's always time to think about love....
For some of us, the hustle and bustle have to do with deciding which gifts to buy those loved ones who are crowding around the Christmas tree. Or were just lighting a menorah. Gift-giving can be particularly stressful when buying for significant others--especially in new relationships. And it starts young.
So what do I think you should do this holiday season--besides buying a thoughtful gift for your special someone? (If, of course, you have one.)
1. Take stock of how things are going in your love life--no matter what your status.
Are your online dating profiles working for you or against you?
Are you dating someone who still hasn't committed to you--leaving you feeling unstable and insecure?
Is holiday loneliness getting the best of you--bringing up old feelings and the desire to reach out to people you'd rather not think about? Like the ex you tried to get over? The one who got away?
The first step to getting what you want in your love life is understanding your reality and making decisions based on that--instead of the fantasy in your head.
2. Come up with a PLAN for the new year.
Wouldn't it be amazing if 2018 really was the last year that you struggled in your love life? And 2019 was the one you made all your dreams come true?
If you believe that you deserve more than a bunch of boring dates, an emotionally shut down partner, or "crumbs" from someone who could take or leave a relationship with you, it is time to take action!
What you really need is a clear step by step protocol to get more exposure to quality singles, help your current partner give you what you deserve, provide that person one last chance ..... or whatever else it is your heart desires. Because if you keep doing what you have always done, you will always get what you've always got.
There are SO many ways to go about transforming your love life. There's a whole world full of opportunities and ways to empower yourself with knowledge. You could scour the self-help/relationships section in your local bookstore, gets tons of advice from podcasts and videos, talk to a professional like myself. You may even want to talk to God--if that's your thing. Or just get really quiet on a meditation chair.
Just, please, find the courage inside of you to do these two things before the end of the year! You can thank me later.
Disclaimer: The following message is not a personal attack on your cooking skills this Thanksgiving! Of course, there is nothing wrong with actually mashing actual potatoes either.....
It is also totally normal to be bored out of your mind during the holiday weekend. Brace yourself for mindlessly scrolling through Facebook, binging on a new Netflix series, or, ya know, just wasting time staring at your phone.
Did I mention having enough of your family is not out of the ordinary either?
I know, I know. Sometimes it is all just enough to make you wait on some crazy line at Walmart and get into a fight with an unsuspecting middle-aged mother who was also hoping to save a few bucks on another appliance she doesn't need!
We are all just looking for something to fill the void, huh?
If you aren't getting your needs met in your relationship or the relationship you don't even have, I am sure you can relate.
If your love life isn't quite where you want it to be at the start of this holiday season, please keep reading.
I just wanted to give you the heads up that I have something special for you! This includes some powerful ideas that can transform your love life.......
And have you doing a lot more than just mindlessly mashing potatoes by next Turkey Day.
I will be sending out a few more emails this weekend to those who are subscribed to my complimentary newsletter with all of the deets. So if you want in, go here and subscribe.
In the meantime, have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Try to focus on GRATITUDE!
And please remember, the reason that I do what I do is because I really am grateful......for YOU!
Oh, so you're like that Millionaire Matchmaker?" they ask.
"Nope. Nope. I've met Patti Stanger, and I can assure you that I am nothing like her. But, okay, maybe we do have a few things in common....."
We are both from Jersey. We both have been matchmaking forever. (Fourteen years, and I am still going strong!) And, of course, we both work with mega-successful, millionaire, rockstar clients who are seeking the one thing that money can't buy: Real Love.
We do our best to deliver our high-caliber clients compatible candidates, coach throughout the dating process and cross our fingers that the potential we see will turn into the happy, healthy, long- term relationship they desire.
Sometimes, it takes going above and beyond to find the right match!
For instance, next week I'm participating in a special event, The Skin Deep Event, hosted by the lovely Dr. Elyse Rafal of Rafal Dermatology at The Waterview at Port Jefferson Country Club.
I'll have a table there and will do complimentary matchmaking consultations with any of the two hundred expected guests who could be a potential fit for one of my most eligible bachelors on all of Long Island! More information about this unique and free event here.
And, I'll be honest: Sometimes, it takes a village to make a match! Networking is key. While I do collaborate with lots of matchmaking colleagues and hire recruiters, I am also constantly asking my friends, fans, and even strangers for referrals to the single ladies they know. Did I mention I compensate generously?
Do you know any single moms on Long Island? (Nassau County would be ideal!) I'm currently recruiting such ladies-ages thirties through forties-for a loving single dad and successful venture capitalist- who seeks a fantastic life partner and wife who'd love to join the family in a stepmom role.
Feel free to refer any interested Long Island ladies to apply to be considered for an introduction here. If my client ends up going on a date with the lady you refer, I can offer you a five hundred dollar commission.
If you don't know any single ladies on Long Island but would like to support my mission of helping incredible men find love, shoot me an email at Rachel@RachelRusso.com I am always hiring commission-based recruiters. I also welcome opportunities for strategic partnerships and collaborations with like-minded entrepreneurs.
So what do you think, can we make some matches this way?! And...
Did you really think I was like Patti Stanger?
Oftentimes, we are scared to ask questions.
Whether they are the silly questions like the ones that guy always asked in your college class, the ones I am asked when I do media interviews, or the tough questions you ask yourself before you go to bed at night: Asking makes us feel vulnerable.
Other times, we ask for advice when we already have the answers. In hearing the opinions of others, we learn that we should really just listen to ourself. Because, deep down, we have the answers.
Sometimes, when a relationship ends, we realize this. We see that the red flags were there all along. We just didn't want to listen to that voice inside our head. While we must listen to our head in love and life-or watch it all turn into a nightmare-we must also listen to our heart.
Because, when you don't listen to your heart.....well that's when you really miss out!
Want something else to listen to?! Last week, I appeared as a guest on The Two Minutes For Instigating Podcast with the guys pictured above at Gotham Studios in NYC. You can have a listen to my episodes: #34 "Lookin For Love" and #35 "Ride or Die"--live on all platforms, including YouTube, Spotify, Soundcloud, GooglePlay, iTunes, and ApplePodcasts. Disclaimer: Silly "Guy Humor" ahead....