Sometimes people get stuck in their dating and relationships. They desperately want a change but don’t know where to begin. They feel all alone in the search for a partner-like no one they know can actually help them meet someone-or that they can’t burden others with their relationship issues.
Are some people just luckier in love than others? What if you could make your own luck?
If you really sit down and brainstorm, you’d find there are many ways to find the relationship happiness that you desire—while staying grounded throughout the journey. Just like there are many ways to take a makeup-less selfie on International Women’s Day to remind ladies around the globe that real beauty comes from within, but anyways….
So here’s an unconventional tip to help you get lucky in love—just in time for that other holiday, St Patrick’s Day, and, guess what? It doesn’t involve an online dating site!
Simply, find a relationship mentor. We do it in business, why not do it for our personal life? What if you could find someone in your network who has the love life that you desire and interview them?
Have a “discovery call”, if you will, and find out the real story behind their success in dating and relationships. Just be curious and start a conversation. You don’t have to ask directly for advice. All you have to do is ask them to tell you their story that led them to where they are today. Then, see where it takes you. And if it changes your life, let it…..
Well, hello! Now that my maternity leave is over and Rachel Russo Relationships is back and fully open for business, I am hoping to bring you a little love. But ,first, that quick glimpse of my "little love"- pictured above- who has my heart overflowing!
Why love? Why love now? WHY NOT!?
While it is easy for many of us to fall in love with babies and puppies, sometimes, finding and keeping love with an actual adult human can be a little more challenging.
If you are up for the challenge, here are seven things you can do to keep the love flowing:
1. Manage your emotions: "Keep Calm & Carry On" is my personal mantra. Create a "mission statement" for your love life and make it a priority to stop any difficult emotions from getting in the way of you carrying out your vision.
2.Make decisions that are based in love--self-love, love for people, love for the planet, and love for God--if that's your thing.
3. Be "love-savvy": I think I just made up a word! The point is: Know how to love those around you by understanding their "love languages". Then, become fluent.
4. Maximize your relationship potential: Whether single or coupled, check in on your weekly progress toward your relationships goals and make plan on how to get more of what you want.
5. Eliminate negativity & insecurity: Just STOP talking about anyone and anything negative, complaining about things in your dating life or relationships, and worrying about things going wrong in present or future. Ditch bad habits NOW internally and externally.
6. Be authentic: Think about your personal brand and style of being in a relationship. Know who you are, be who you are, and watch how magnetic it is.
7. Seek what you are: Do not entertain anyone who isn't on your level in terms of their ability to love. Don’t waste any time on them. Focus on attracting & maintaining relationships with high quality people only. If someone you are already involved with isn’t adding to your life, think about...subtracting.
Ready to work on finding or keeping love? Email Rachel@RachelRusso.com, subject "Love Now", for details on a special offer--that your heart really won't be able to resist!
This Valentine’s Day season, I have love on the brain-and in my energy-more than ever! I'm writing from my couch, curled up with my sweet baby girl, Serafina Simone, who just turned ten weeks old.
“It goes by so fast,” they say. Well, I am savoring every single moment and doing all of the things-even those unpleasant ones like extra messy diaper changes and exhausting night feedings-with love and joy.
While I’ve been surviving-and often thriving-in my new role as Serafina’s mommy, I have also thought deeply about how I’ll balance my career and motherhood—not to mention my own love life, in the near future. That’s right: One day, I’ll soon be ready to find my own lasting love, as I chose to have her as a solo mom-sans the baggage from an ex-as I conceived her with donor sperm via IVF. I just prioritized motherhood, you see, but, of course I want to find my person—as do all of the people I help find their own.
Re: Lasting love …..
As I recently shared: Most single women probably don’t think that having a child on their own could help them find a partner, but, my knowledge of relationship dynamics from my career in matchmaking and dating & relationship coaching has convinced me otherwise!
Although one never knows what the future may hold, I wholeheartedly believe having my beautiful daughter on my own will actually help my love life! As I discussed in my recent episode of the Pregnantish podcast, it really takes the pressure off dating when you aren’t looking for the future father of your child. A lot of men are drawn to this lighter energy, as well as the confidence, boldness, and independence that comes with this life choice.
While I am not currently dating, I have already received my share of attention, genuine compliments, and even an offer for an infant car seat from a guy who never met me. I have been talking a lot about solo parenting and romance lately, both publicly (Hello, Instagram Live) and among friends.
I was so happy to see that a journalist from Insider heard my podcast interview and decided to do a story on my views of how solo motherhood mixes with dating, as I’d love to share my perspective with women who are thinking about doing this but are fearful that they will, you know, end up old and alone with cats. It doesn’t have to be this way, and I hope to be living proof! You can check out the article for more of my thoughts here.
In the meantime, I will enjoy my journey transitioning into a working mom —with the greatest love of all by my side! With my maternity leave officially ending in two weeks, I look forward to helping people- in the NYC tri- state area and beyond-create and maintain their own versions of happily-ever-after through matchmaking and dating & relationship coaching. If interested, feel free to email Rachel@RachelRusso.com for details on special Valentine's Day discounted rates from now through the end of February.
Indeed, this February 14th is an extra special Valentine’s Day for me, as I am loving this new version of my happily-ever-after. I hope it is a great day for you too—whether you are single or coupled. It is always a great day to have a great day.
Its been a while since I last wrote, and it may be a while since I write again, but I wanted to let you know about some exciting, limited-time offer opportunities.
If you haven’t heard the news: I am now very pregnant, a proud single-mother-by choice-to-be, with a Blessingway and (Surprise!) Virtual Baby Shower under my belt, and my article “A Matchmaker’s Perspective On How Single Motherhood By Choice Could Upgrade Your Love Life” set to be published in Pregnantish Magazine soon. I look forward to my labor, birth, and slowing down as I transition into mom life with my baby girl; I just wanted to say: Its time for last call!
If you are in my database at Rachel Russo Relationship, you may know that I have been working to transfer database member profiles to another highly-respected company I am working with-Maclynn International- to double the chances of getting matched while I am on maternity leave (for the next three months) and beyond. If you haven’t completed your application for open membership: They have hundreds of clients throughout the US and internationally, and it would be no cost to you to be an open member. It is also no cost to be a database member at Rachel Russo Relationships. so if you aren't in the database, you can get in here.
If you want to know more about this matchmaking opportunity with Maclynn simply email Rachel@RachelRusso.com. I am happy to speak with you and/or send you information about their terms and conditions of open membership. If you want to actually hire a matchmaker, I can make referrals to colleagues, and I am also available to support you with 1/2 price coaching sessions. Last call for dating and relationship advice-via virtual coaching-at the reduced rate of $125 per session. This offer stands until November 2, 2021 when I will officially go on maternity leave. To apply to Maclynn after November 2nd, please select open membership, and use the code “RachelRusso”.
As always, I wish you luck in love and life, and I look forward to being in touch soon!. Feel free to follow me on Instagram for more on my solo mom by choice journey in the meantime.
One of the major perks of a matchmaker’s career is that it provides the matchmaking professional with so many opportunities to connect with interesting, accomplished people. And on a deep level while we are at it!
From venture capitalists and small business owners, to NFL players and entrepreneurs, I have helped all types of people find and keep fulfilling romantic relationships throughout my sixteen years in this industry.
I really enjoy the “member to non-member” business model that I have been using for the past several years, as it allows me to consider the whole world as my database. In the past when I worked for companies that did not do outside searches or executive recruiting, the success was limited. I felt confided in my matchmaking process, as I could only match clients with other paying clients in the companies network. I could only do the best I could with what was in front of me.
At Rachel Russo Relationships, I have taken a different approach. As long as I have one paying client-whether male or female-I am happy to go out into the world and scout singles. I often focus my search online-utilizing social media sites like Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn as well as dating apps and sites. One day “offline” recruiting might mean calling up a matchmaking colleague who could help me match a client; the next it could be stumbling upon the perfect woman while picking up my iced green tea at Starbucks, and the day after, it could mean paying a recruiter to find singles at the hottest event in town!
I am very big on collaborating with other matchmakers, as it has led me to make several successful matches and also compensate love industry professionals with generous commissions for the work they have done in creating their network of singles. If you are interested in being considered by some of the best matchmakers in the United States and internationally, reply to this email—as I have connections that could lead to romantic introductions that won’t cost you one cent!
In my business, I am currently doing a matchmaking search for a forty-year old eligible bachelor in Bergen County, NJ. He is a successful entrepreneur looking for someone special-with both brains and beauty-to enjoy life with. She should be anywhere from her late twenties to late thirties and located within one hour of his residence in Northern NJ—excluding the NYC area. (Yes, he needs a lady with a car!) Also, she must be beautiful and interested in a true partnership!
Does this sound like you? If so, please apply to be considered-at no cost to you- by filling out a profile in my confidential database here.
Note: Your information will not be shared with anyone without your consent; your profile is for my eyes only—unless you authorize that I pass it on. Upon receiving your profile, I will be in touch to let you know if you are a fit for this client or someone else I am working with.
Do you know someone who may be a potential match for my client? Please send me an email at Rachel@RachelRusso.com with photos and details of the single woman you’d like to nominate. If you will accept, I will gladly compensate you ($150) for the referral—or provide a complimentary coaching session to you!
Yup, that’s matchmaker life for you!
Million Dollar Question: Can women have it all?
Society seems to tell us we should be beautiful, fit, well-educated, successful in a career, in a happy marriage, with 2.5 kids, a thriving social life, and a vacation home. People think it should all unfold on the perfect timeline too.I believe some women can have it all-- but not necessarily all at the same time!
Last week, I sat down with my lovely matchmaking colleague, Julia Bendis, and attempted to answer this question on this episode of her “Someone Had To Say It” podcast. I opened up about my decision to become a mom without a partner. I talked about all the details of how I became pregnant this past March, how Covid factored into it all, my advice for women-with a ticking clock-who currently want children but aren't in a relationship. I've done many podcast interviews throughout the years, but this was my most personal yet; it was such a pleasure to speak with Julia--a matchmaker who truly "gets" it!
Its been so rewarding to share my solo mother story, and so many people have reached out with love and support--and to let me know that my participation in the Solo Mother Instagram Challenge has inspired them!
If you’d like to learn more about my journey, you can check out my daily Instagram posts since July 1rst or read my recent feature in this Yahoo Live article about the benefits of solo motherhood.
That’s all for now.
There is no doubt about it: The pandemic changed things--and the dating culture was no exception!
As many singles have discovered, "video dating" is a thing now that is here to stay. The apps are still alive, well, and generally as awful as ever, but: Some people are still finding success. And I am happy to help them navigate the ups and downs along the way. Sometimes the right coach makes all the difference.
Meanwhile in the matchmaking world: A lot of us matchmakers are wondering: Is dating officially back? Are people serious about finding relationships or will it be "a hot girl summer"?
I'll be honest: I am getting a lot of women wanting to be matched up from NYC, New Jersey, and Long Island, but since the pandemic, it seems there have been less men reaching out for matchmaking!
Hence, the ad in Newsday. Don't get me wrong: I am always looking for quality women to match with male clients, but right now I am wondering:
Long Island men, where are you!? I am especially looking for very successful men there and in NJ.
Know any? Feel free to refer to me in exchange for generous commissions. Single yourself? You can always apply to be in my confidential database here.
This is a tough blog post to write. Just weeks after I excitedly announced my pregnancy-as a single-mama-by-choice-to-be on social media, I received some devastating news about a friend of mine who was also a single mother.
I'm beyond heartbroken for my friend, Ali Kessler, and her family. Not yet having a child, I can only imagine the pain she is experiencing. You may have seen her sad story-one that marks the failure of the criminal justice and legal systems-in the news.
Her adorable four-year old son's life was tragically taken from him--by his own father, who then committed suicide. Ali did all she could to protect her son; the judge refused her emergency order of protection. She was the best mom she could have possibly been--despite all the challenges in dealing with a co-parent-ex who was clearly mentally ill and abusive. This is so tragic. I am praying for peace for Ali and her family, and I am sharing her story in an effort to raise money for her—for funeral, legal, and life expenses. This is the first time I have ever asked anyone to donate; if you feel as compelled to do so as I did, please do so here.
I am also sharing Ali’s story to spread awareness about mental health issues and domestic violence. Thankfully, I never met her ex-as she had relocated from NYC to Florida soon after meeting him. She did not meet him through a matchmaker, but as a matchmaker-responsible for introducing people who go on to create marriages and families- I have chosen to speak out to the matchmaking community about the great responsibility we have.
I suggest all of my matchmaking colleagues and students at Matchmaking Institute take all the precautions they can in fully vetting people, doing background checks, using their intuition, etc. Personally, if I have doubts about a potential male or female client, I would never take their money and set them up. It is never worth it.
In addition, I beg all singles to look out for the red flags of someone who is mentally ill, narcissistic, and/or capable of domestic violence. I am currently looking into working on some projects to help promoting dating safety and minimize domestic violence. If you wish to collaborate, please email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com.
Greyson should be here today. No parent should have to suffer this loss. No man or woman should be a victim of such abuse. I hope you'll remember this important message and take advantage of any opportunity to promote change.
Do you remember when you were a teenager and you started reading all those magazine articles about how to get him to like you? Ask you on a date? Make him feel special? Get him to commit? If you were shy, you’d try to be more outgoing and flirty ..….
If you were overweight, you’d try to shed the pounds …….
If you were needy, you’d try to tone it down……
You’d make all these changes to modify yourself to appeal to him. The thing is: You do not exist to please men! Making changes in your looks and behavior is more beneficial if you are making those changes because they appeal to YOU.
But, if you are like most women, you do a lot of what you do to please men. And somewhere along the way, you lose sight of what is really important to you. You approach dating with more concern about winning him over than figuring out if he’s actually someone worth the win. You do more to accommodate him than he does to accommodate you. You cater to his schedule more, you commute to him, you decide to put your goals on hold for him. You cook, you clean, you take care of his kids, and you help him in ways that he does not help out. You’ll have what he’s having, and, sure, you will relocate for him.
You’ve been making his needs more important than yours. And, then, you wonder why your relationship is imbalanced or why he’s lost interest. Being accommodating seems like a plus in relationships, unless, of course, you are never accommodated in return. If you don’t make yourself the most important person in your life, who will?
Isn’t dating ironic?
You have all these men lining up to date you, yet the one you want to date is nowhere to be found! Most people would look at you and point out that you are beautiful, personable, smart, accomplished, and with a great circle of family and friends. They couldn’t imagine why you wouldn’t be happily married with 2.5 kids and a penthouse suite by now—let alone wrap their heads around the idea of you having trouble finding a man.
But you aren’t looking for “a” man. You are looking for YOUR man! And you are probably wondering: How can I attract the right guy?
You can be the catch of the century, but if you can’t communicate who you are to the man you desire, you’ll be as irrelevant as that “Dusty” creeping in your DMs.
In other words, you need to understand your value in the dating game and in life, in general. You have a lot of strengths. But do you know which once you should play up to get attention from the right guys?
Once you are strong in who you are at your core, you can position yourself in a way that demands attention from the type of men you are wishing would notice what you have to offer! (Bonus: Once you take that stand and make it known, you’ll repel some of those Mr. Wrongs who just liked you for superficial reasons.)
Before you even think about accepting an introduction from a friend, putting yourself on a dating site, or attending an event where your “type” may be, there is something you need to be know about yourself.
Its your relationship hook. Its that one thing that is EVERYTHING. Its what keeps him coming back for more—and, sorry, lady, it has nothing to do with sex. Your “game” isn’t that special, and it is not what makes him emotionally invested in you for the long term.
For the record, its not your Botox either. Botox may get the guy, but it sure won’t keep him.
If you want more than a “hook up” and want to hook the man of your dreams so that you can have the connection, love, and stability you crave, there is something you need to know. Most women don’t know it.
But you don’t have to be like most women……
Want to take the first step to attracting Mr. Right? Book your strategy session here.
Interested in being matched? Join my confidential database or update your profile there today.